December 26, 2007...11:10 am
22. His bye-way— 1st Lane
Some women are about Me and other women and what We can do. Other women are about Me and my man and what We can do.
Some women cannot be grateful for a man doing what he does best—producing, providing, protecting, problem solving. Other women intuitively sense that gratitude for their man must precede his full appreciation of her.
Some women stress faithfulness to feminist ideology and political objectives. Other women stress fidelity to one’s mate.
Some women reduce their nurturing skills as part of de-emphasizing their female nature, as part of acting more like men. Other women exploit their nurturing skills to expand and improve their expertise as relationship kingpin.
Some women teach young girls about sex without love, enable them to experiment, and downplay maturity. Other women teach young girls to mature first, love next, and leave sex to marriage.
Some women tear down manliness and masculinity to get what women want. Other women uplift manliness and masculinity to get what women want.
Some women living or dealing with men orient their thinking and feelings around hard-heartedness and soft-headedness. Other women confirm, rely on, and reinforce the females’ natural hard-headedness and soft-heartedness.
Some women demean the male ego. For example, they offer sex after little more than chit-chat. Men thus receive small sense of accomplishment for conquering a female, and this earns virtually no respect for the woman involved. Other women capitalize on the male need to conquer. They withhold themselves for lengthy periods and, much like game play, make him commit ever more deeply of himself. His deeper involvement increases his psychic return-on-investment for conquest and earns her much greater and enduring respect.
Some women use casual sex to attract men, but this fails to earn his devotion or obligate him for much more than more sex. Other women insist on virtual virginity. That is, No Sex without Marriage, which creates time to deepen his interest, respect, and devotion for one woman.
Some women use aggression to push forward their agenda against the male sex. For example, they rationalize dressing comfortably to explain dressing sloppily and reflecting harshly on their man. Other women use attractiveness to charm and captivate men as allies. They avoid sloppiness, because men men don’t appreciate their woman appearing that way.
Some women base their excitement for a man on how well he lives by her rules and expectations. For example, to affirm her co-dependency, she insists he check in with her often when he is away, including frequent check-ins daily from his workplace. Other women see their man morning and evening, so they do not expect frequent check-ins to reaffirm feelings for each other.
Some women discourage their man by insisting that he fulfill responsibilities according to her wishes; women tell their man HOW to do what they expect. Other women encourage and indirectly pressure their man to improve his sense of personal and family responsibility. Following a sound leadership principle that works particularly well with men, they suggest WHAT needs to be done and let him determine HOW to do it.
Some women pursue and even initiate sexual relations with men for self-gratification. They shift men toward stud-service thinking and expanding their life away from what the majority of women seek. Studly thinking causes men to devalue and disregard the hopes and dreams of all females for one man’s devotion. Other women highly value and uphold ideals that tend to tame male aggression, civilize boys and men, and domesticate husbands for fulfilling female hopes and dreams. They forego sexual gratification for long-range security.
Some women endorse winning as a cardinal principle for both child and adult behavior. Other women endorse how one plays the game as paramount for mentoring children into maturity and minimizing the seriousness of marital disputes.
Some women enhance the female side of civic and workplace life by demeaning the male sex, and this reduces the males’ value on the social and domestic scenes. Other women enhance the female side of social and domestic life by uplifting the male sex as indispensable and the female sex as grateful.
Some women put their initial sexual encounter with a man high on their priority list. They use sex to make themselves worthy of him. Other women delay granting sexual favors until a man honors her reluctance for sex, pays homage to her principles, steps up to her expectations, and yields on his sense of freedom in favor of female-sought devotion and togetherness.
Some women popularize changing society into the feminist ideal, while this makes men retreat from committing with one woman for more than shack up. Other women purposefully lay personal groundwork that stimulates a man to commit for matrimony without shack up.
Some women reject the concept and refuse on principle to fill the biblical role of wife submitting to her husband. Other women realize that ‘submission’ is more attitude than principle, means to cooperate and not compete, and she gains his respectful attention when she adapts to it. She knows that it means to stay out of his face and get her way with other methods for which she has considerable talent.
Some women devalue virginity and abstaining on the premise that females have the same sexual rights as males—that is, freedom of choice extending into promiscuity or more. Other women believe that such claims and practices betray and undermine fulfillment of female dreams for marital longevity. After all, one loose woman craving male attention can lure men from more than just a few marriages.
Some women challenge and antagonize their man into an opponent with anal retentive maintenance of their home and expectations that he change to meet her expectations. Other women respect, charm, captivate men, and hold onto their man with multiple attractions and attractiveness that make him more important than her and home.
Some women promote their self-confidence by getting in their man’s face to win some or every disagreement. They disregard the permanent damage—regardless of who wins—to his sense of significance as her mate. Other women promote their self-confidence and self-worth by nurturing their man through, around, or over whatever obstacles he encounters. (If she is not needed, he will let her know so she should not take personal his rejections of help.)
Some women de-civilize and de-domesticate males by letting moral values deteriorate such that it expands male aggression and demeans family life. Other women insist on higher morality and living up to something or somebody bigger than oneself. They seek more civilized behavior, enhanced domestic responsibility, and harnessing of male aggression into energy that brightens their family’s future.
Some women dress erotically to capture a man and afterward follow up with sloppiness that turns his head toward other neat and erotically attired women and girls. Other women know that their sloppy appearance and inattentive personal care and grooming around the home points his spotlight on trophies outside.
Some women marry but retain their maiden name to show independence. Men read their independence as weak attachment to their husband. Other women take their husband’s name. This signals more clearly to other males that she is now unavailable and her husband is significant.
1 Comment
December 27, 2007 at 12:28 am
I love this. I’m having some of these issues with my wife.
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