To fully understand the role of female virginity to males, we need to dispose of the fantasy that male virginity has value to females, except perhaps to the female ego disillusioned by ‘equality politics’.
As Yul Brenner says in The King and I, “Is a puzzlement.” Why do women deceive themselves by placing high value on male virginity? It’s probably another blubbery attempt to bridge the ‘equality gap’. That is, if female virginity is important to men, why shouldn’t male virginity be important to women?
When it comes to sexual relations, men are hunter-conquerors, and boys are little men. To a boy after puberty, his virgin status is a shame, a horse collar label among his peers. If not laughing in his face, they laugh behind his back. It has to do with masculinity, not girls.
To the girl who is surprised or who ‘nurtures’ a boy through his change of status, two outcomes are most likely. (1) Too much foreplay and he pre-ejacs, embarrasses himself, holds it against her, and longs for the day he can prove himself to another female. So, she’s made herself temporary in his life. (2) Too little foreplay and she’s not ready. Yet, he learns that girls are easy to rollover, foreplay is not so important, and he longs for the day he can do it again. So, he shifts his focus from her to others and takes the first step toward infidelity.
In short, unless married boys have little future use for the girl who taps their virginity. This makes it a ‘dirty job’ for smart girls and women.
Doubts exist whether a boy could learn such negative lessons about girls from one event. But, early sexual episodes program the mind indirectly, especially when they happen in the hormonal throes of puberty.
3 Comments
04/26/2008 at 12:53 am
But didn’t GOD say that ALL sex before marriage is a sin? Fornication is not only for women. True purity is two virgins marrying.
04/28/2008 at 10:35 am
I have heard in some countries that it is part of a rite of passage that young boys are sexully educated by an older woman. Perhaps this is why. Sign me up for that job! lmao…
01/29/2009 at 5:13 pm
maybe the value that male virginity has to chaste females is… I dunno, something to do with *integrity?*
Your Highness Cleanandpretty,
Of course it has to do with integrity, but effects can lead to the weird.
If his integrity keeps him virgin, you’re saying the chaste female values him for steadfastly adhering to high moral principles. Right? And she hopes to marry a man of such character. Right? Well, such thinking makes her a smart and admirable woman.
If her integrity keeps her virgin until Mr. Right comes along, then he values her for … integrity? I don’t think so! He values her chasteness as symbol that other men have not preceded him. So, integrity as her distinct self-motivation for chasteness is not what adds value to her.
Lopsidedness develops: (1) Her integrity and actual virginity are not nearly as important as the perception that he’s an elite in her life, the first or nearly first man to know her. This is why virtual virginity is so effective dealing with men. (Look it up in the CONTENTS page at blog top.)
(2) Integrity, character strengths and weaknesses, or lack of moral principles reflect much more brightly from behaviors other than a man’s sexual inexperience. As a point of interest, beware the older virgin guy. If he has all his life imposed will power—or social withdrawal—to cap his primal urges, he has more than likely distorted his thinking about women, life, and Self. Mama’s boy, weirdness, and worse arise from such stinking thinking.
Incidentally, with a few short words, you’ve earned admiration. I like your thinking.
Guy