January 25, 2008...11:44 am
73. Submissiveness—Section 3
Modern women think that submitting to husband’s authority forfeits wife’s interests. Now, another look at that issue.
Women fill two ‘either-or’ roles—woman and relationship partner. But modern women are confused.
As a woman they hormonally resist submitting to a potential threat, a man. But as girls and single women, they submit to male conquest just to have a boyfriend. The ultimate submission lays groundwork for all submission that follows.
As partner to a man they naturally gain relationship advantages by adopting a submissive spirit. But as modern wives they argue, criticize, and otherwise demo in-your-face fussiness. More masculine than feminine. More success for her in his domain and less success for him to himself.
Men primarily fill one role, that of being a man. Each expects to succeed as himself in all his relationship roles. He focuses primarily on provider-protector, but women expect more—friend, faithful mate, husband, father, affection-giver, devoted lover.
What she expects does not come hormonally to his hard-headed and hard-hearted self. She either enables and empowers him to succeed as himself with her as partner, or she loses him.
As wife, she focuses primarily on nesting and relationship budding, building, and maintenance.
She’s primarily the nesting authority focused on the future. She perceives success through long term goggles. She’s successful if she has tomorrow’s events under control today.
The issue of who submits to whom revolves around respect each has for the other. When she wants him to succeed, look good, or lead the way, she submits. When he likes her way of doing something, he submits if there’s no watering down of his authority or direct threat to his dominance as perceived by others.
He can’t be successful to himself, if others see him weakened by his wife. His competitors are outside the home, not inside.
Post 72 is a prequel about the male side.
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