In addition to more freely yielding unmarried sex, feminist thinking prompts younger women to make more fundamental mistakes dealing with men.
Many women seem inept at winning the battle of the sexes, attracting the right man, avoiding hit-and-run relationships, identifying worthless men before yielding sex, dodging the Manipulating Man, avoiding the violent man, capturing the Marrying Man, avoiding accumulation of more ‘baggage’, inspiring faithfulness, avoiding the man’s game of shack up, living with a man for more than a few years, and growing into the right person to hold a man for life.
Some women adopt stupid rationalizations: Get pregnant to capture or hold a man. A married man is better than nothing. We’re great in bed, so he must love me. If we don’t cohabit, I’ll lose him.
Other women ignore their nature. A woman does not absolutely need a man, but she wants company or assistance at specific times in life. Primarily she wants a dependable relationship with someone stronger and perhaps more influential in shaping events that impact her and her children. She wants help to brighten her future in a society dominated by catastrophes, powerful people, and unexpected events. She wants comfort in needy times and seeks companionship to prevent loneliness. She particularly wants all these things late in life.
Feminist theory, dogma, and propaganda brought these conditions to women. Fortunately, women are now beginning to see the light.
I don’t see a war, instead I see many assigning groupthink to individuals due to some chromosome. Gender roles enslave us all, if we give them weight.
How is it a woman’s fault when the man is, at your own admitance, unfaithful, abusive, hit-and-run etc? If he’s that way before she gets to him, how in the fuck is that her fault?
How about men getting their shit together and half whatever problems he brings into a relationship?
AGM responds: This post assigns no fault to women for the way that men behave. Some of my other posts do, however. You might try a few of the 91 below.
why assume all women want a relationship with someone stronger than themselves? I certainly don’t. Some women don’t want men at all, some want celibacy, some want other women.
And how can you as a man be so sure what women want?
AGM responds: So, you’re different, you’re not the usual female. I have no intentions of making you angry. I try to keep my focus on women with troubles other than what you seem likely to encounter.
I am sick of reading articles where men assume all single women are feminist or “freely yielding unmarried sex”
Do these men actually know any older single women?
All the single women I know volunteer, are sincere about their faith and are not sleeping around. Marry the wrong person and that is “O.K.” in our society- you made a mistake. But, do not marry because you have not found Mr. Right and you do not want to make a mistake-and you are tagged feminist.
Are nuns feminist?
AGM resonds: May I suggest posts 77 and 90? And perhaps some others.
“Gender roles enslave us all, if we give them weight.”
“Gender roles” are inevitable.
Hi, Reader:
And your opinion adds no value here.
Guy
“Gender roles” are indeed inevitable. There is no society which has not had distinct sex roles, the feminist and post-feminist world is no exception.
This is simply a matter of order and equilibrium.
Whether you value that or not boils down to whether you are willing to accept reality or not.
Hi, Reader,
We’ve crossed signals. You took exception to an irrelevant reader’s comment of more than two years ago. The inevitability of gender roles takes us off theme just as 99ppp did in FEB 2008.
Guy
Do you really think women are beginning to see the light? I hope so. When I was in uni I thought casual sex was completely normal – now of course I have learned from my mistakes and mended my ways! I just wish someone had told me all this when I was 18.
I broke up with my boyfriend a few weeks ago (just after my birthday in fact) and am finding great comfort in reading your blog. Thank you.