It happens after one-night stands or several dates. Women hook up only to wonder why his promised call never comes! The best rule for getting a call, for getting him to come back, is: Refuse to hook up.
Her mindset governs the ringing of her phone. It starts with the presence or absence of an attitude of gratitude about herself and her potential value for a man.
If she’s ungrateful for herself and sees sex as her potential, she should expect no call. If she’s grateful for herself and sees denying sex as the tool for expanding her potential, she should expect a call.
Sex does not bond a man. It captures him for no more than conquest and maybe a few more times. So, even when he does call after hook up, she may be viewed as potential duty slut.
A woman holds a man by making him grateful for her in ways other than sex. This takes time and the delay of his conquest.
To men after conquest, sex just happens, their relationship just is, and taking her for granted comes easily. Those are natural conqueror’s rights initiated by her yielding. So, her strategy and tactics before hook up govern her life with each man.
She may not know how or want to use it, but she holds the dominant position with a man until she yields. Use it or lose it.
Denial expands her dominance. Yielding kills her dominance. If he’s hunk to her, she gets overly eager and contaminates his respect for her.
If she’s hunkette to him, he drives up his dedication to conquer; his eagerness rises. Her continued denial expands his eagerness. Eager men make phone calls.
So, her denial guarantees his call, if he’s truly interested in her. That’s how she knows his intentions. Her over-eagerness guarantees no call. Submitting leaves the call and the duty slut question up in the air.
The longer she delays their first time sex, the more she enhances herself as the relationship kingpin.
When she gives up her advantages by yielding, she forfeits the most dynamic period of gaining his respect for her. Respect won’t guarantee a call, but his earning it is essential if she expects that he will grow to love her.
After conquest he dominates, and the first conqueror’s right is to dominate their sexual agenda. That often means, move on to the next one. There’s no future with this one.
She looked good enough to chase last night, but afterward she … well, you know.
[Posts 68 and 79 provide other possible reasons even though he said he would call.]
