178. Weans, tweens, and teens #2—ThreePhases

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This series is about mental development and shaping the minds of children.

It’s not love that raises a child, it’s how parents apply their love with a single purpose in mind. Effective parenting comes from converting love and affection into mature adult thinking that first nurtures, then leads, and finally coaches a child into mature adult behavior.  

Children develop differently in three distinct phases. Consider the far end of each phase to be the first grade, puberty, and age 21 and to vary somewhat for each child.

·         In the ‘weans’ before age six or seven, a child finally eases away from mom’s side. Throughout the weans, nurture works best to prepare a child for mature behavior in adulthood.

·         In the ‘tweens’ before puberty, dominant leadership works best to prepare a child for mature behavior in adulthood.

·         In the teens after puberty, coaching works best to prepare a child for mature behavior in adulthood.

The most important phrase above is “prepare a child for mature behavior in adulthood.” All that follows has that as the primary objective of mind development.

[More on the mind appears at post 177 and others that follow this post with higher numbers. Scroll upward.]

 

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