April 28, 2008...5:01 pm
181. Virtual Virginity #10
For both sexes marriage is an investment, either small or large. The bigger a man’s investment, the better for the woman. This makes sense, but why?
A man misses out for unmarried sex with a woman. They marry up. In his mind he has paid the ultimate price for frequent and convenient sex. The harder he has to work for something, the greater his investment of time, effort, and personal commitment to complete or finish the job. Well, his job is no longer conquest, it’s making a success of marriage. At least, that’s the way he starts, because he was outcompeted for sex.
Having made the greatest sacrifice, having invested himself totally because he obligated himself to provide and protect, it’s much more difficult to admit to himself that he made a mistake. (With small investments it’s far easier to shrug off mistakes and start over.)
Having been defeated for unmarried sex, he bought into the marriage game. What’s for him to question? He decided to do this thing. Thus, when problems arise, his mind is stabilized against uncovering thoughts that he made a mistake.
This makes him hesitate to question the fundamentals, such as her, his devotion, their marriage, their future. Acceptance without questioning fundamentals helps solve problems without unsealing a couple’s togetherness.
Virtual virginity is all about maximizing a man’s investment in her, their relationship, their marriage, their family, their life together forever.
[More about virtual virginity appears in posts 169, 158, 147, 136, 125, 96, 70, 51, 44, and 25. Scroll down or search for the number with a dot following.]
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