May 7, 2008...5:03 pm
190. The high cost of cheap sex—Part 09
♀ Round heels inspire masculine performance without satisfaction of meeting a manly challenge.
Shaping the minds of adolescents especially, Hollywood and TV create assertive female roles to out-conquer the male for sex. For example, sight of him switches her passion switch, and she undresses him. Desperation and eagerness flood the screen. It’s fun for wishful viewers—but believable role models? Real life operates much differently and adolescents especially miss these messages:
· Men appreciate cheap and easy sex. But, they don’t value much what’s given to them.
· Such female behavior cheapens a man’s conquering spirit. It denies him opportunity to prove his manly worth by other than sexual performance.
· It makes her exciting for sex, but too eager and, therefore, too loose for a man to expect her faithfulness.
· Being given what a man expects to be a challenge turns him toward a true challenge.
· The female nature intuitively guides mature girls and women away from such extreme behavior. They know something else is better for them.
♂ Though not as women expect, casual sex energizes men. If she’s that free and easy, then pursue the next score, notch the bedpost, and go after more.
[More about cheap sex appears in posts 171, 161, 149, 138, 99, 84, 39, and 2. Scroll down or search by the number with dot and space following.]
4 Comments
May 8, 2008 at 12:52 pm
My biggest question is this..
Why can’t a man make a conscious decision to stop seeing first-time sex as a challenge? Or the better question is why WON’T he. I think this question could have some very useful answeres besides “DNA” which I don’t see any scientific data on this blog.
May 8, 2008 at 1:13 pm
“The female nature intuitively guides mature girls and women away from such extreme behavior. They know something else is better for them.”
Mature is a completely a wrong term to use here. The more accurate word to describe what is going on would be “unwounded” . Intuition is developed and inherent before maturity is - So, if we dont count all the young woman who-dont have fathers, have bad mothers, have been sexually abused (1 in 3), raped, or are orpahned..
then once we all count all of them, what is left is the few unwounded women, yes..who will be able to HEAR that voice inside of them that urges away from such behavior. But I would never make a person who has suffered from such atrocities (as I have) to apologize for acting on a desperation that came as a consequence of being victimized. Why won’t men acknowledge this? Most of these women aren’t loose whores. If men could acknowldge thier part in all of this, rather than just blaming “feminists” which is ridiculous, then we could get somewhere. I think each of us needs to be accountable. the man, woman, abused, unabused, feminist, non-eminist alike. The fact is we ALL play a part in this drama everyday and blaming is going to do nothing. Only open and honest public dialouge between the sexes. Without fingerpointing (Thats not mature)
May 9, 2008 at 5:12 am
Miss Dawn,
You ask: “Why can’t a man make a conscious decision to stop seeing first-time sex as a challenge? Or the better question is why WON’T he.” You ask that men change their nature. Men are hard-wired by Nature to conquer women, but they consciously choose to wait until an attractive woman chooses to yield. Thus, they yield dominance to certain females. AGM
Re my “mature” vs. your “unwounded” terms: You make sense, but there’s more. More is coming in posts about “Weans, tweens, and teens.” Keep this in mind: Wounds add to or detract from mature judgments. It’s not what happens to a person, when they’re not in charge. It’s how they react, because they are now in charge. AGM
May 9, 2008 at 4:38 pm
“Men are hard-wired by Nature to conquer women, but they consciously choose to wait until an attractive woman chooses to yield. Thus, they yield dominance to certain females.”
This makes complete sense to me. I cannot claim that I know this to be true by experience, because it never even occured to me to make a guy wait, and if I did it certainly didn’t have to do with anything like what is being claimed in these blogs. I feel so vulnerable when reading these blogs and has triggered much grief as I see the truth of men that have had a sincere intrest in me..and I wasn’t trying to be a: whore, gold-digger, promiscuous slut, cheater, game-player… I just followed my passion. I thought that was what being a woman was all about. And now, with a heart full of grief I admit that I can see exactly what went wrong. But what hurts the most is a lack of understanding. From both men and women who judge from the sidelines and know nothing about my history nor seem to care. I grew up in foster care and lived in over 20 institutions by the time I was 18. I have seen the worst of the worst in girls lives and although we all must overcome our pasts and eventually take responsibility, heal and move on- It sure doesn’t make it any easier when you have an entire society of people who sneer at you from thier high horse: “Slut, whore, cheap-tramp..” I used to be a hard-core feminist, but it was because they were the only ones who would listen to my story without judging me. Sure, they gave me a self-defeating philosophy to live by (I didn’t know that then of course), but then again there were no classes in college called: “Femininity 101.”
Todays girls don’t have role models either in the home for this chasity/femininity model and sexual abuse is on the rise (mostly by uncles, fathers and step-fathers..so much for the ween/tween thing), there is no more ettiquette schools where we walk with books on our head (I would have loved that). I meet very few women who don’t have some kind of past that involved beiong violated by a male as a child. And that is how I came into my sexual being before its prime. I was never brutally raped, but fondled by many adult males as a young girl. My libido was awakend far before it’s time. It was not my fault. I think it would be better for the anti-feminist men to become pro-femininity instead. That way, all of this is shed in a positive light and girls and woman can stop hiding thier pain behind the protective walls of feminism and be coaxed out into new and scary realm of femininity. It is what most of us really want. But none of us could ever admit it in the face of someone all to eager to brand us with the scarlet letter .Now that I know the truth you best belive that I am integrating all this new and strange, yet, undoubtedly true principles and facts of life into my psyche. I am afaid and hurt. But I still have this piece of a soft-heart here. Who will help me water it, give it sun and watch me grow into the sweet, submissive, gentle and graceful woman God intended for me to be?
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