May 13, 2008...5:07 pm
196. Dark Side of Feminism—Part 14
© If women refuse to honor the male gender as more worthy than the female gender, they kill what it takes for men to respect women as more worthy than men. It’s far more attitude than fact, appreciation than trust, approximation than precision. Caution: The reverse never happens, because men don’t respect women that portray no gender uniqueness.
© Feminists believe that male and female infidelity are the same and equal. Not so. He cheats, and she breaks down emotionally and seeks outside help. She cheats, and his sense of significance plummets. This makes her obsolete. He maneuvers to be rid of her—sometimes harshly or violently. Of course it’s not fair, but men aren’t females regardless of how feminists hope to change them.
© Men bond with a woman and strengthen their family responsibility by making themselves useful and proving their worth as rescuers, protectors, providers, problem solvers. But his woman’s insistence on her independence turns him toward escapism in big toys, expensive adventures, irresponsibility, females. To the degree he’s not needed, he’s free and looks to have fun.
© We all tend to become like those with whom we associate. Feminists for three decades claimed men to be selfish lovers, inadequate mates, and poor responders to female needs. Now, women accuse men of being irresponsible lovers, mates, fathers, and family men. They also claim that men are ignorant of female needs, wants, hopes, dreams, and relationship-building. ♫ Ta da ♫ Men no longer make good husbands. Just as feminists claimed.
© Feminism makes the worth of women decline in male eyes. Women receive less respectful, harsher, and even abusive treatment.
© Females treated badly further lowers the value of men in female eyes, which helps the political agenda of feminists. Unintended consequence: It hurts the majority of women trying to keep their man.
[Other posts about the Dark Side are 180, 168, 157, 146, 134, 129, 123, 103, 92, 71, 50, 47, and 23. Scroll down or search by the number and then click the title.]
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3 Comments
May 16, 2008 at 7:45 am
I personally am a fan of feminism… I enjoy wearing pants, having a job (at equal wage to men, and I get to keep my money) and being legally allowed to vote.
AGM responds: All your enjoyments were customary and standardized many years before Feminism arose. One exception: equal pay. More on the subject will appear in future posts entitled From feminine mystique to feminist mistakes. Guy
May 16, 2008 at 7:48 am
sorry I clicked ’submit’ before I was finished…
“feminism” only means a belief in equal social, political and economic rights for women. there are many radicals who do hate and criticize men, but they are a small minority of women. most feminists want to be respected. I think it’s a good thing that women are allowed to voice concerns about the way they are treated in relationships… it holds men more accountable for their actions, whereas in the past it was taken for granted that men could do pretty much anything they pleased.
you write as if things were perfect before 2nd wave feminism in the 60s/70s… as if domestic abuse didn’t exist, as if women were always respected and treated well, as if they were free to be individuals. sadly, the opposite was more common.
AGM responds: You make good points, but we talk about different things. You address feminist theory, hopes, and politics. My blog addresses the different, often opposing, but potentially compatible relationships of men and women. May I suggest that you view the series Sex differences explain men as shown in the Table of Contents. Post #4 kicks it off.
Guy
May 18, 2008 at 6:14 am
I am aware that they are different things… which is why I question your misuse of the term “feminism” to describe the reason for relationship problems.
Ms Aly,
I cannot separate the effect from the cause, the fallout from the explosion, the result from the hope, the outcome from intention. The connections are much too apparent. We should agree to disagree, and I’ll initiate.
Guy
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