☼ When he shows interest, she starts out as targeted sex object. Her yielding confirms it. Hunters stop aiming at game already put down—except for booty call.
☼ To each man interested in her, she’s a sex object. She yields and becomes something else. She does not yield and becomes something better.
☼ Withholding unmarried sex is the most valuable way to shift a man’s focus to feminine interests, especially away from male dominance.
☼ He keeps looking for her weaknesses to get her in bed. While doing so, he learns to appreciate her other qualities and strengths that benefit him.
☼ Female dominance works indirectly, beneath conscious thought. Her insistence on unmarried chastity forces him to choose: Either depart or enlarge his interest in all the other wonderful things she has to offer and qualities she has to charm his life.
☼ Unmarried chastity with a man enables her to orchestrate his interests gently but deliberately through this sequence: girlfriend, sweetheart, fiancé, bride, wife. It’s her path to feminine glory.
☼ Yielding empowers him to pursue this: hook up, link up, and maybe shack up until his freedom calls, and they split up. It’s his path to masculine glory.
☼ Conquest weakens his interests in her. Weaker interests require less effort and intensity for one woman and enable him to spread his interests elsewhere.
NOTE: The youngest generation gets it right. “Young women Reclaim Self-Respect and Find It’s Not Bad to Be Good” It’s a quote from the dust cover of girls gone MILD by Wendy Shalit. She also authored A Return To Modesty, Discovering The Lost Virtue. I recommend both to parents and all females seeking to spend their life with one man. Both books taught me the deepness of the female nature.
[More about virtual virginity appears in posts 181, 169, 158, 147, 136, 125, 96, 70, 51, 44, and 25. Scroll down or search for the number with a dot following.]
2 Comments
03/03/2009 at 7:14 pm
Hi, what if the man is in love and they waited a long while before having sex? What is the outcome then? I have seen couples that have had sex before marriage that are happy. If a man really cares about a woman, will he still lose some interest after being a “conquorer?”
Your Highness Sillylovesongs,
His loss of interest after conquest has nothing to do with her but with his hormonal drive to spread seed. Two things combine to neutralize it: His character traits such as commitment, integrity, and sense of personal responsibility for another person, and magnetized emotions such as mutual love and devotion. Both work to self-contain the urge.
Your couples apparently have two things in common: Waiting a long time provided the benefits of virtual virginity. Plus, the women evidently chose men with female-friendly character traits. These choices enabled wives to get husbands to bond with them and override masculine primal urges. This makes his post-conquest loss of interest inconsequential.
Guy
03/04/2009 at 6:34 pm
Those women seem to have better batting averages than the waiters in today’s society.
Your Highness Easybreezy,
You may be right. However, I suspect their batting average is built on one-base hits. Many will take too big a lead off base and be picked off before they can round to home. (Let each base equate to a decade of marriage.)
Guy