♂ ♀ Her known past generates many more suspicions than acceptances and assurances. Her unknown past generates fewer suspicions to eat away at the mutual trust she hopes to build.
♂ ♀ Counselors often advise full disclosure. When men actively pursue more about her past, they cannot not use the info they gain. Talked into full disclosure, women expect fairness and equality. The male nature does not originate fairness, and equality is a female concept.
♂ ♀ Full disclosure comes out uneven, unequal, unrepairable, because the male nature values her virtuous past far more than the female nature values his past virtue.
♂ ♀ The harder a man works to draw details out of her sexual past, the more likely he will use it against her. It’s available to hold over her head and to rationalize or compensate for his future ‘mistakes’.
♂ ♀ Forgiving her sexual past with a lack of knowledge is far easier than forgetting what he learns from disclosure.
♂ ♀ People argue that trust cannot arise without full disclosure. Hah! Trust arises from convictions drawn from beliefs and speculation about a person. Trust does not arise when specific knowledge undermines such convictions.
[More cautions about her sexual history appears in posts 166, 156, 145, 122, 121, 117, and 111. Scroll down or search by the number with a dot and space following.]
