♥ Even though previously married, virtual virginity success lies with her friendly feminine charm and persistent refusal to have unmarried sex. If he won’t honor her wishes or forces himself on her, he’ll be worse after conquest, during shack up, and even after marriage.
♥ This springs from adolescent thinking: If he conquers a true virgin superstar in looks, his significance among peers skyrockets for having the freedom to dump her.
♥ Virtual virginity’s power shifts all the attention from him to her.
♥ His ‘conqueror’s rights’ emerge after their first sex together. It’s as natural as her succumbing to his charm or looks.
♥ Virtual virginity gives a woman time to impose her values and blend her relationship into a joint effort, because he’s willing to listen as he searches for her weaknesses that will enable conquest.
♥ If they divorced and she wants him back, virtual virginity works best. If they have sex anytime for any reason, he will not change. If he really, truly, emphatically wants her back, he will change into a different man if she refuses sex until remarriage.
♥ Conquering a virgin is the ultimate, but not as women think. He’s first among his buds. It pads both ego and bragging rights.
[More about virtual virginity appears in posts 273, 248, 231, 212, 198, 181, 169, 158, 147, 136, 125, 96, 70, 51, and 44. Post 25 describes options for girls. Scroll down or search for the number with a dot and space following.]
Hmmm, this is all very true and wise and I’ve tried to live to this rule- no sex before marriage. But I see all the party girls, modern women, and the ones who had sex before they married, and lived with their boyfriends getting married. (I also see some who took the same path not able to get married because of multiple break ups). I also know people with serious STDs who have men (seemingly) devoted to them.
The good thing about virtual virginity and chaste courtship is that you at least get to weed out the men with the wrong intentions, or you have a clear head evaluating compatibility/character. But after years of only weeding out, it gets frustrating. Keep on keepin on I guess.