The squabble-prevention checklist continues:
♥ Keeping him is easy but not simple, once she learns to use her female strengths.
♥ Feminine brightens his day. As one woman put it, femininity adds color to a man’s B&W world. [Alison A. Armstrong, Keys to the Kingdom, p.151]
♥ People respect those who are different, unique, and powerful within themselves. Her power thrust in his face offends, however, whereas well-controlled internal strength is admired.
♥ Virginity, devotion, and marriage are recoverable. People make so many mistakes that recovery is everything. (Details in posts titled Virtual Virginity.)
♥ She’s a keeper, once she learns to keep him.
♥ Hook up but no call? Moved in but no joy? Married but no peace? Then change herself, because men don’t or won’t.
♥ Women are the maintenance experts, men go along for a smooth and maintenance-free ride.
♥ Learn the difference: Self interest motivates everyone. Self-centeredness motivates you. Us-centeredness motivates us. Selfishness de-motivates others.
♣ Feminism sours his day.
♣ Attacks unsettle his day.
♣ If she’s never satisfied, it drives his thoughts to other options. (The wedding signaled she was satisfied with him, so dissatisfaction means she changed and is no longer the woman he married.)
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Guy
My husband’s table manners are atrocious. Over the years they have grown worse and I can hardly bear to sit at the same table during mealtime. What would a good and wise wife do?
Your Highness Bev,
Welcome aboard. Always glad to have another pretty woman sign up for this cruise.
Have you talked to him about it? Does he know you’re displeased? If yes, then he lacks respect for you and your expectations. That makes it tougher.
If no, I suggest this: You inform him that you won’t build and maintain his castle if he’s gonna treat it as pig pen. Either your standards for the home prevail, or he can take care of everything else himself. Cover those thoughts gently, privately, and slowly. Over time he may come to please you on this matter.
Guy