I admit it’s a game. Women have ignored it for years, but now men win with it. It’s called ‘hardtoget’. Men call the same strategy ‘vague and unavailable’.
What people want, think they deserve, but apparently can’t have, they want even more. So, their interests and efforts intensify.
Men play this way: Show little interest in her even for sex. Let her talk and emote her way into your bed.
Women play this way: Whether you have an interest or not, show disinterest until he shows much more than sexual interest in you. Make him work his way into your heart long before your bed.
Our foremothers mastered the art (see post #82). But modern women lose more than they win.
Women are too impatient to generate relationships with men. They expose their interest with too much skin, eagerness to get involved, and willingness to go along to get along. Men sit back and act vague and unavailable, and women come to them in spirit if not actually.
Women allow no time for a man’s imagination to fire up, focus on her as partner with sex as mere byproduct, and her to the exclusion of others. (Also see #359, 287, and 252 about firing up the masculine imagination.)
What women never hear: The male ego feeds on accomplishments, not what comes easily. Unearned gifts make no lasting impressions. She makes erasable impressions, when she pushes herself toward him or provides sex with little investment of the heart by him. Thus, she makes herself disposable long before time together can generate a lasting relationship.
More follows soon.