The male persona is full of private agendas, and women don’t show sufficient respect for their man’s vital nondisclosures.
The list continues of what a man will seldom volunteer or admit:
22. What’s behind his depression (even if he knows).
23. That her unmarried chastity earns his respect.
24. His hidden agenda when she tries to uncover it.
25. That his immature behavior is adolescent or vice versa.
26. Weakness in manliness and especially sexual performance and reputation.
27. That other boys or men are the source of his weakness or character flaw. (He’ll reject guilt by association or copying what others do. He is his own man now and always.)
28. Finally, he won’t admit to unvolunteered details after admitting to any of the above. He wants to admit only what he just admitted.
Men tend to hide thoughts, dodge queries, and evade rather than admit certain things. In general, women trying to open or explore what’s not volunteered about these subjects might be making their relationship toxic.
This ends the list for now. But stay tuned.
2 Comments
02/06/2009 at 9:24 am
Guy:
1) What if he suspects she knows what his hidden agenda is? (eg- an Ex of mine told me I was “too smart” because I would not accept his words and promises of marriage in the future as enough reason to sleep with or move in with him).
2) What if his hidden agenda (or real reasons for doing something) is known by the female (although he doesn’t know she knows) and the female loses respect for him because he doesn’t tell the truth and makes up false reasons to keep his reputation as a “good guy.”
02/06/2009 at 10:20 am
Your Ladyship Easybreezy,
As I read you, I detect that you already have the answers you need. Moreover, I don’t have the information, inclination, or personal involvement to offer advice. But I heartily admire you in 1) and her in 2) for accurately assessing the situations.
Re 1): Acknowledging you as ‘too smart’ signifies dishonesty in both his line and his character. A man wouldn’t admit such a thing, unless he was trying to manipulate. Your future brightened, when he joined others in the ex lane.
Re 2): The ‘false reasons’ alone justify dumping him. Affirmatively—much less untruthfully—protecting his ‘good guy’ reputation signifies he’s a phony or worse. He makes a better candidate for dumpee than dumper.
I’m not sure I addressed your inquiry as you expected, but I enjoyed trying.
Guy