© Men are hunter-conquerors, and boys are little men that learn from teen girls. Each generation of girls teaches boys to aim toward being civilized and domesticated men. Or else, boys grow up to be big time conquerors and dominators. A famine of teen sex teaches the former. Plentiful teen sex teaches the latter.
© Men can’t stand criticism about sex, so they prefer virginity. Virtual virginity makes a man forget that he may be criticized. Continued refusals make it worth the risk, and so VV lathers her with value.
© Virtual virginity doesn’t make her judgments foolproof. It does, however, enable her to distinguish the important things: long term devotion from short term commitment, the Marrying Man from the womanizer, the mature from the immature, the sincere from the phony, the temperate from the intolerable, the believer in something admirably greater than himself from the believer in the mundane or things that shock female sensibilities.
So, I just had a date #2 tonight. He asked me to come into his place to show me something (that I thought he was going to bring along on the date). I dodged it and said I’d wait outside- and did not explain or anything. He was totally surprised (as they all are). I watched closely his reaction and dectected bewilderment. I’m not sure anything will become of it though- there are important differences.
But if it is- it will be an uphill battle as one of his best friends is dating my friend- the one who believes you should sleep with men as early as possible 1st/2nd/3rd date. I’m assuming he figures all her friends are just like her.
easybreezy, will be interested to hear about date #3 then he absolutely thinks he’s going to get you in bed easy, so you might want to change you’re name from easybreezy to something else. just kidding, these are kind of like fun little experiments are’nt they? and you are the one in control, that’s gotta be liberating.
Oooo Easybreezy!
I like to hear stories of man-denial! :>
“it will be an uphill battle as one of his best friends is dating my friend- the one who believes you should sleep with men as early as possible 1st/2nd/3rd date.”
Actually, this might work in YOUR favor. As I’ve said before, men gossip. If this guy IS interested in you, he will probably start to wonder what’s wrong with *your* friend, since she so quickly hops in the sack and you don’t.
Can’t wait to hear about date 3!
> If this guy IS interested in you, he will probably start to wonder what’s wrong with *your* friend, since she so quickly hops in the sack and you don’t.
Absolutely not. He will start wonder whether EasyBreezy has *issues*. I hear (and experience!) time after time, that women are told they are frigid or have irrational fear of sex or have been mistreated in the past, if they dare to assert their stance (not having casual sex).
Princess Shirshir,
Good input. Thanks. You and Princess EasyBreezy have inspired a two-part series to be published today and tomorrow.
Guy
Shirshir,
True…but these wouldn’t be the men looking for marriage, now would they? ;> These guys are announcing up front that they are only in it for the sex. I say, “Thanks for the heads up!”
I haven’t encountered that kind of attitude from guys who are looking to settle down or, at least, for something long term. REAL men will wait for you, IF you’re their type and IF they are marriage-minded.
Yes those are the guys you WANT to weed out. Men who want to settle down won’t make too much of an issue of it.
By the way- I don’t think there will be a date #3- no contact from the guy for a full week now! But no big loss either…
Easybreezy,
Sorry to hear about date–or lack thereof-#3. He might still pop up, but if not, if seems you have a good attitude about it! This is the bonus of not sleeping with guys so early on, the pain of the guy going AWOL-comparatively speaking-is minimal. :>
Update: Months have gone by, friend got married to my former interest’s best friend. At their wedding, this guy I hadn’t heard from since that last time I wrote in this thread tried to have conversations with me several times….and asked if he could have my number again (actually, he hinted at getting it again at their engagement party earlier this summer). I told him “you had your chance.”
Good for you. He sounds lazy. Only wants what is convenient. I doubt he is marriage minded or deserves you.