525. She has‘Issues’ — Reasons


I dedicate this series of two articles to Princess Easybreezy who rang the door bell and Princess Shirshir who opened the door at post 518.

Women refuse casual sex, and men accuse them of frigidity, fearfulness, or sexual mistreatment. She must have some ‘issue’. Or else she’d never refuse the sexiness of whatever guy charms her at the moment. Let’s look at some reasons here and responses in next post.

Reasons: Casual sex being the man’s game, he’s prepared to convince her of the rightness of his cause. However, she often helps rather than discourages him.

·        To penetrate whatever mystery she holds, he provokes her for explanations that he may argue against further.

·        The female nature wants to dispose of accusations, pursue resolution, and settle all matters, especially with an attractive man. Men intuit and exploit this as weakness.

·        She says more than just No. She explains her stance against casual sex, or about waiting for marriage, instead of keeping it mysterious until later. Any explanation gives him ammo for his next verbal thrust, accusation, and description of her ‘unreasonableness’ in this mind game.

·        He may act mad, and maybe he is. It’s still his game plan, and he’s using the guilt delivery system to provoke, madden, and convince her that he’s more right than she.

·        The one that can’t stand to lose the other will lose. If he’s great, and she can’t stand the thought of losing him, he’ll read her silent messages of weakening resolution, and keep pressuring until she caves. It may take days or weeks, but her resolve will dissipate simply because she convinces herself that he’s the keeper for her.

·        If she treats him as expendable, he reads it as if he’s about to lose her. His ego regurgitates the unpleasantness. If she’s worth it to him, he’ll stay around for more of the game. If she’s not worth playing the game with, he’ll depart. Either way she wins.

Some response options follow in next post, 526.

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6 responses to “525. She has‘Issues’ — Reasons

  1. Miss Dawn

    “…The one that can’t stand to lose the other will lose. If he’s great, and she can’t stand the thought of losing him, he’ll read her silent messages of weakening resolution, and keep pressuring until she caves. It may take days or weeks, but her resolve will dissipate simply because she convinces herself that he’s the keeper for her…”

    Ever so perfectly and eloquently written and explained. :)

    Your Ladyship,
    Durn, Miss Dawn. You’re up early and quick on the trigger. Love ya’ for it too.
    Guy

  2. theresa

    And the above shows why a woman has to love herself more than any man, when it’s the other way around, she loses.

    Your Prettiness Theresa,
    Amen! Amen! Amen! Few statements are more accurate than yours. Sure glad you came along on this blogride.
    Guy

  3. easybreezy

    Thanks for your post and dedication..hee hee I did ring the doorbell, didn’t I? And I love the responses of both posts- they are right on! Thanks!!

    Your Prettiness,
    Thank you, Easybreezy. I put forth triple effort to make 526 clear. Glad I didn’t strike out.
    Guy

  4. theresa

    easybreezy, you sound cute as a button!

  5. Shirshir

    Thanks for acknowledging and responding so much to the point, agm. I had a friend Lili* (some of your readers know her well and cherish her memory), who said not to ever argue with men about “no sex” thing — he will almost always win logically — men are more logical, but to simply state, “my heart tells me not to” or “I don’t feel it’s right” and leave it at that. He can’t argue with feelings – they are not logical. However, I like your responses, too, and even more so your attitude – that we basically don’t owe random men an explanation for not having sex with them!

  6. Neisha

    I love the intelligence of these amazing women who respond! Understanding of said topic is clear as clear could be!

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