He’s seen these things happen to too many guys:
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She bases her respect for her man on how well he lives by her expectations. For example, insisting that he check in frequently, involve her in all decisions, and immediately drop his work to answer her phone calls.
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She challenges and antagonizes her man on certain issues. She makes him an opponent without respecting that men avoid competing with women. He and others perceive her efforts as disrespect.
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She competes or interferes with her man in domains he considers his own—for example, his job, work, or pastimes.
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She frequently gets in his face. This kills any interest for pleasing her, invites aggressiveness and abuse, and degrades family life. When his guilt rises from his responses, it urges him to leave.
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She just can’t be grateful for her man working at what he does best—producing, providing, protecting, and problem-solving for family and home.
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She marries but retains her maiden name to show independence. Two ill effects follow: Husband senses weakened hold of his woman. Other men read it as weak attachment to husband. (She may not be worth hitting on, but husband’s not above losing respect of other men.)
