In the previous post (563) we saw the role of the color black for suppressing thoughts about sex. This post explores the feminine disadvantages caused by ‘dressing down’ so that only sex has appeal.
Females dress down for variety of reasons: through laziness or carelessness about personal appearance; soft-headedness about personal grooming; to attract men with suggestiveness; to act more like men; to use unsightliness to prevent hits; or to hide fat bulges, folds, and wrinkles. Thus, they rationalize away their strengths for dealing with men and holding onto one.
- Suggestive clothing invites conquest, nothing more. Put a man’s mind on that target, and she’ll have difficulty shifting his focus to whatever else she has to offer. Start with sex, and she’ll end up with little else.
- All-black emulates guy-wear. Guys know how to treat other guys, including fakes trying to win favor or just think and dress like men.
- Black camouflages fat and weight. If women didn’t hide behind it, would as many be overweight?
- Tight black clothing usually bulges. It doesn’t take much to suggest her desperation for a man, reflect lack of self-respect, and display lack of self-discipline at snacks and table.
- Tight black signals some willingness to abandon standard feminine behavior, and the obvious alternative is masculine-style sexual freedom. Men sense it that way, although it may just be sensed in background mode.
- Particularly unfeminine are black tank tops, tight tees, and similar upper wear with hip-hugger jeans or more suggestive bottoms.
It boils down to this: If women seek greater respect from men, shape up. More mirror time prompts women to think more feminine. More feminine translates to dressing up instead of down.
Guy! You mean I can’t cover my pushing 50 self with black? It doesn’t make me look slim and sophisticated like I thought? Oh dear, oh dear
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Princess Jill,
It does do what you wish, and more women should follow suit. You’re dressing up to look pretty, and that’s precisely the opposite of what I intended to cite.
I regret that I was not more clear. Looking back, I was describing ‘dressing down’ more than color black. I’ll try to make it clearer. Perhaps a rewrite. Thanks.
Thanks also for wrapping your reproach in inoffensive packaging. It’s a feminine talent that men lack and appreciate highly.
Guy
Just because a female is wearing black doesn’t mean she dressing down. I can still wear a black *something* and wear something else that non-black.
Most North Americans need to “shape up”! It is so disheartening to see so many couples that may not make it to their golden years together because of their unhealthy lifestyles.
very illuminating! thank you.
Princess K.
Thank you. I love it when pretty women tell me such things.
Guy
Ah, my poor husband. Clearly he had no idea what he was doing when he married little ol’ me…a firefighter who spends most of her time in jeans and a tank top. I have never had a feminine minute in my life…he’d best divorce me straightaway! Silly boy, thinking he could respect a woman who isn’t girly.
Your Highness A,
Congratulations. You are unique and like the rest of us.
Guy
Since you mention overweightness and bulges, I thought I’d ask about, well, women’s weight. Put briefly, do men like thin, thinner, and thinnest women… or is that just an idea in the female mind promoted by… what?… anorexic movie stars, maybe?! (Also promoted by said movie stars: the idea that huge is better where the bosom is involved; something you have countered elsewhere, I believe.) When it comes to overall shape and weight, then, could it be that size is less important than how it is handled, smartly dressed (in a feminine way), etc.?
Your Highness Anne,
I’m delayed in responding fully. Look for a response as P.S. below or perhaps a daily article Tuesday or Wednesday.
Guy
P.S. I was diverted by the complexities of the subject. Look for Thursday’s daily post.
G.
I look forward to it!
so what clothing colors do you recommend for a first date?
Your Highness Balle,
Whatever color(s) make you look great, greater, and greatest. Better to be slightly overdressed but understated than underdressed or overstated. Shy, positive, and reticent should work better than assertive, negative, and loud. Remember: The purpose of the first date is to be invited for the second so that you gain control of the options.
Guy