Here’s some more jack about Jack. Females come in second for attracting his attention. Movement comes first. The following simplifies a common but complex scenario that men undergo and women suffer.
As hunter-conquerors, men automatically glance toward movement. Dangers alert him. Males disinterest him. Females interest and may attract him.
For a female passing nearby, in rapid-fire succession and before conscious thoughts ever stir, a man’s subconscious automatically assesses her as appropriate or inappropriate for him, an up or down check:
♂ Her general appearance and prominent features trigger interest or disinterest for sex. If she’s interesting, value is assigned attractiveness as sex target. She’s either worthy and he could possibly pursue, or both conditions are not met.
♂ If she’s worthy and he can pursue, his conscious mind engages to consider action. The subconscious glance is over. Ogling may follow.
♂ If he’s not interested or she’s not eligible for pursuit, her sexual allure is automatically ignored and targeting forgotten. (If not forgotten, his conscious mind has taken note.)
♂ His habits of thinking through such situations may tell him ‘No, forget it’. Strong convictions about morality, integrity, and respect for the female with him or obligations to another woman can stop the process with his glance. The object’s attractiveness is still appreciated, but the subconscious triggers disinterest, because it has been programmed to do so. (For example, devoted husbands, pastors, and conscientious gentlemen do it well.)
♂ Habit, disinterest, or lack of opportunity causes an instant ‘No’ to register, and the subconscious mind shifts to other matters.
♂ It all happens in a flash and directly from hardwiring of the brain. To this point, the conscious mind has been occupied elsewhere.
If ‘No’ has not registered subconsciously at the glance, the conscious mind shifts to the subject from whatever engaged it.
Ogling is habitual or conscious. If habitual, and thus programmed in subconscious mind, the females in his life never taught him better. If done consciously, he has little respect or weak interest for the gal he’s with.
Scanning another woman offends and lingering looks insult the woman he’s with. It’s nothing new. However, only females teach males not to do it. Mothers teach boys to respect females generally, girls dump boys that do it and word spreads, and women describe their disappointment to guys that scan or ogle.
More than a glance at another woman reveals conscious thought, which is why women are offended or insulted when their man does it. With only a glance caused by movement, however, men retain a natural innocence.
There may be one instance where I don’t blame a guy for overly checking out another woman: when the woman he’s with doesn’t take care of her appearance. Outside of that, when individual women make it known that ogling is not cool and women demand respect from their men above all else, then males don’t do it.
There are women out there that actually point out beautiful women for their man to look at. Some of these women even go to strip clubs with their men. What. The. HELL?!?!
I find normal that a man look at another women. He finds her attractive. However it doesn’t mean he is going to cheat on his girlfriend.
I reckon it is annoying for the girlfriend but I still think that a man is a man.
It is the role of the girlfriend to know when he is crossing the line.
Looking at an attractive women is not crossing the line for me.
I do look at men sometimes because I find them attractive. It doesn’t mean I will be unfaithful to my boyfriend. And I am sure he will talk to me when I am not behaving as he expects me to.
Your Highness Marie,
Welcome aboard. Always glad to have pretty women with us.
Your comments reflect much more maturity than commonly seen. Thanks.
Guy
Made a recent comment about glares/stares from men. Not sure you responded, can’t remember where I posted it.
Lady Kaikou
Your Highness Lady Kaikou,
I responded at post 1115.
Guy