Reason, logic, and stubbornness about unmarried sex—aka common sense hardheadedness—enables women to make society female friendly. So does common sense soft-heartedness dealing with life, children, men, and husbands. Female friendliness spreads when women:
- Enhance the female side of social and domestic life by uplifting the male sex as respectable and indispensable and the female sex as respectful and grateful.
- Highly value and uphold morality, principles, and ideals that tame male aggression, civilize boys and men, and domesticate husbands for fulfilling female hopes and dreams.
- Forego immediate gratification to pursue long-range security, and do it sooner in life. (Dave Ramsey claims women have a ‘security gland’. I say this: It becomes active with her mid-STRIFE crisis that arrives about age 30 and intensifies throughout life.)
- Express, endorse, and follow moral and practical ideals that stimulate a man away from shack up and toward matrimony.
- Practice virtual virginity to allow time for a man’s interest and respect to deepen into more than romantic love. Delay his conquest until he honors her values and principles, steps up to her expectations, and yields his sense of freedom to devotion and togetherness.
When the most admirable, popular, and opinion leader females follow their nature in those ways, others follow. It pinches and squeezes male dominance. Overly independent masculinity shrinks under female pressure, which pushes men to think about and help one woman pursue her life goals.
It makes me so angry that women, especially the single ones, who act stupidly make it nearly impossible for smart women to have a peaceful life with a guy. I don’t see the fun in a female wanting to act like a guy with premarital sex, bragging about how much she can drink, dressing like a guy, shacking up, not practicing one ounce of delayed gratification, and on and on… Heck, I don’t see what is so great about being a guy period.
Allison
Your exceptionalness Allison,
Your level headedness is very admirable.
Guy
What do you think about the new trend of “sex tapes”?
It is pretty scarey and infuencing ALOT of young girls who look up to these women.
Your Exceptionalness Jessica,
Sorry but I’m not familiar with them. Perhaps some of the lovely ladies that cruise this blog have knowledge.
Guy
Do you mean celebrity sex tapes? Most celebrities aren’t that bright anyways, so they don’t see anything wrong with them. They actually HOPE or HELP these tapes become public because they stupidly believe that they will boost their careers. Meanwhile, those of us on the outside may be propositioned by even our husbands to make one. Would I do that? No. If my husband and I do ever divorce, I do not want it to come back to haunt me. Also it can fall into the wrong hands.
As far as how sex tapes influence young girls, when we hear about teen girls ‘sexting’, that very well may be how these tapes are having an impact on young girls. This is why parents should not let their teen children own cell phones with cameras on them and parents should also know who their children are talking and texting to.
Please answer this question for me as it has been bothering me for some time. . .
Men are KNOWN to be visual creatures, so Im wondering if a woman’s looks TRUMPS her whorish past or lack of any other femenine qualities?
Your Prettiness Jessica,
NO! Her appearance captures his attention. It can hold his interest until conquest, but not much beyond. Hang a picture in your home and three days later you don’t notice it. Same thing.
Virtual virginity with new guy overwhelms a whorish past and keeps him attracted to her appearance. Acting more feminine does the same but not as impressively. Combined they create an effect greater than sum of the parts.
Guy
Hi jessica,
All i can say to that is that the quality of the male would be such that no lady like me or you would like or want him.
He woulde as shallow as a Betta pool.
What an analogy! Thanks guy!
U are a blessing!
This is just great. I can’t tell you how inspiring it is to read this posts on my journey to regaining my feminine power.
Mr Smart & Patient Guy,
Can you comment on the following:
Delay his conquest until he honors her values and principles, steps up to her expectations, and yields his sense of freedom to devotion and togetherness.
What percentage of single men are able and willing to do this? My experience is that most single men will walk away from a relationship where they are not being sexually gratified.
The number of Real Men (“true gentlemen”) I have met in my adult life is very small. They stand out so starkly in comparison to most of their peers that my standards feel “impossibly high” yet I cannot lower them since I know that what I want IS out there, however rare, because I have seen it! I feel like I am looking for a needle in a haystack, and I am getting older every day.
Please advise.
Laura
Your Highness Laura,
The way to find the needle in the haystack is to immediately, I say again, immediately let every man know that you’re very different and even gentlemanly behavior may not be enough. Dismiss all out-of-line men with disdain for inadequately understanding women.
You’re either the greatest woman, unspoken by you of course, that ever lived, or men will reduce you to their level.
Guy
Mr Guy,
I understand the point about being firm with un-gentlemanly men (this is something I need to work on because I probably am not decisive enough in this regard, and am “too friendly” when I should be more cool to inappropriate behavior) but would you be able to elaborat on the following comment:
The way to find the needle in the haystack is to immediately, I say again, immediately let every man know that you’re very different and even gentlemanly behavior may not be enough
How exactly does one relay this impression? Specifics would be appreciated.
Finally, I love what you wrote here – and I know you are NOT talking about being arrogant or conceited–and I am printing this up and hanging it on the back of my bedroom door:
You’re either the greatest woman, unspoken by you of course, that ever lived, or men will reduce you to their level.
Your Highness Laura,
You ask, “How exactly does one relay this impression?”
• Have courage to look every man meaningfully in the eye as if you’re exploring his very soul. Don’t let him stare you down.
• Display friendliness but drop the display immediately on his distasteful words or actions that offend you. Don’t complain, don’t explain. Just withdraw your spirit of interest in him.
• Shut off and figuratively flee from any direct turns or indirect fades toward suggestive topics.
• Insist that a man make himself interesting to you. Don’t let him just rattle on as he brags about himself or what he can offer you.
• Expect that he make himself worthy of you by holding your interest. If he can’t or doesn’t, withdraw soon and politely.
• Don’t be afraid to offend him by walking off out of disinterest.
• If he doesn’t want to fall in with your ladylike behavior by treating you as a lady, dump him even if you just met.
Develop both the personal belief and the reputation that you’re very particular when relating or dealing with men. The higher your expectations, the greater the respect you will earn, and a man’s love is based on respect. Who you are to yourself is far more important than who you are to a man. Believe it and live it, and you’ll always make good impressions.
Guy
Mr Smart & Patient Guy,
This is a goldmine. I think you should put this into a separate article.
I think I understand all the points except the following:
Insist that a man make himself interesting to you. Don’t let him just rattle on as he brags about himself or what he can offer you.
Could you be more specific about how this is done? Men like to talk about themselves, and I read years ago that if he does this on early dates it is not necessarily because he lacks interest in you, but because he is trying to impress you (I think it was the “Men are from Mars” book) and that this is a good sign. That was a revalation to me when I read it because my Feminist Programming taught me to view such behavior as selfish and egocentric. I would expect you are in the main in agreement with “Men are From Mars” on this point (?)
So what should a woman do when he “rattles on”? Should she change the subject to something else (sports, weather, books, movies, etc)? Should she say something about herself? I have copped on to your advice that women should not reveal too much about themselves of a personal nature until she knows and trusts a man quite well and I am full agreement. These points seem to be a bit in tension with what you are recommending in the above bullet point. So how should the bulleted scenario be handled?
Laura
Your Highness Laura,
Interact with his monologue. Ask questions that bring out what interests you, what makes him explain his character, and find out what makes him uncomfortable about himself. Where does he not want to go with his continual chatter? Apply yourself gently that way and his spouting off will become more ‘profitable’ for you and help you shape whatever relationship you’re trying to generate.
Guy