Feminism’s theoretical, political, and economic pressures seduce women into thinking the worst about male nature while asserting or assuming female near-perfection.
♦ It hardens the female heart against the male gender and fools it about females. How does that brighten the future for the individual female trying to convince one man that she knows best about their relationship?
♦ Feminism inspires women to compete with men at all levels and times. Competition may work outside the home but not within where her hopes and dreams come alive.
♦ Feminist pressures program females to expect that tween boys should civilize themselves, teen boys should behave themselves, bachelors should tame themselves, and husbands should domesticate themselves. Women conclude that males should behave as females do and do what’s right according to female values, standards, and expectations.
♦ Feminism ignores the true, dominant, but indirect power of females and their various roles. Mothers nurture infants and indoctrinate toddlers with right and wrong. With mom in lead role, parents teach tweens to use obedience to their advantage. Teen girls use adolescent tactics to teach boys about adult female expectations. Single women shape unmarried social scenes. Wives domesticate husbands. Those are powers our foremothers developed by exploiting the Judeo-Christian culture that men produced to help fulfill female hopes and dreams. Our forefathers knew the best for women and children was also best for them.
The reality today: Relative morality supersedes right and wrong as measure of social justice. Men are not inclined to capitalize on the virtue of obedience and consequent self-discipline. Teen girls are not only dominated but exploited by teen boys, and girls do nothing different. Single women shape the unmarried scene with sexual freedom that threatens all marriages. Husbands are not deeply dedicated to family responsibility. It’s all the legacy of Feminism.
“It hardens the female heart against the male gender and fools it about females.”
I like men in general. I hate *individual* men because of their *individual* actions.
“Feminist pressures program females to expect that tween boys should civilize themselves, teen boys should behave themselves, bachelors should tame themselves, and husbands should domesticate themselves. Women conclude that males should behave as females do and do what’s right according to female values, standards, and expectations.”
To any woman who lives like this: I got a bridge I want to sell to ya! Males DO NOT domesticate themselves or each other! Both single and married *feminine thinking* women tame and domesticate men, especially in marriage. Look at gay male sham relationships or “marriages”. These types of relationships don’t encourage domestication or sexual fidelity. Throw in a woman who uses what she naturally has effectively. Now you got something that entire societies benefit from.
“Mothers nurture infants and indoctrinate toddlers with right and wrong. With mom in lead role, parents teach tweens to use obedience to their advantage. Teen girls use adolescent tactics to teach boys about adult female expectations. Single women shape unmarried social scenes. Wives domesticate husbands.”
Women sure do have a lot of power. If only the majority of us would agree to take it back!!! Sharing it with men hasn’t worked one bit.
“Single women shape the unmarried scene with sexual freedom that threatens all marriages.”
I feel comfortable enough here to share this. I have a female relative that purposely sleeps with married men. She has 2 children, boys (!!!!!), as a result of these affairs. I could KILL her!!!!!!! I feel soooo sorry for her sons. She helped to screw over a fellow female and she screwed over these two boys, who technically shouldn’t be here. But they are. She has to deal with it ALONE. Her future doesn’t sound very bright at all….
While I never give cheating men a pass (once again, they know they are married), no woman should give a married male (or any male, I am focusing on married males right now) the option to behave badly sexually. A bop on the head is the appropriate response. I have had married men hit on me, asking me for my number. I look at their ring fingers and chastise them for what they are doing. In public (Walmart). I never hesitate. It’s disgusting. If only I knew their wives (evil snicker……)
“Feminist pressures program females to expect that tween boys should civilize themselves, teen boys should behave themselves, bachelors should tame themselves, and husbands should domesticate themselves. Women conclude that males should behave as females do and do what’s right according to female values, standards, and expectations…”
I want to know more about this. Where does this fact coem from and why has it been erased from common knowledge? I thought all people were: (lets say it all together kids) RESPONSIBLE FOR THEMSELVES!!! Thats what we all have been taught. I don’t mind my role in domesticating men, but I sure as hell don’t like that it’s some big secret that 99% of women dont know about.
See the modern traditionalists want to pick and choose what they want. They say that everyone is responsible for themselves and that every person is an island. They worked hard for it themselves- BUT when it comes to social behavior- its the womens fault that men dont act right. Fine- so it is!
I need to research this. So basically, like this artivle I read says that :”Men left to thier own devices are the worst kind of savages.”
But all this begs the question:
WHO DOMESTICATES AND CIVILIZES THE WOMEN????????????????????????????
Your Highness Miss Dawn,
“I thought all people were…RESPONSIBLE FOR THEMSELVES.” Sure, we’re responsible for the person we are. But throughout life we absorb from our surroundings. We become like those we trust and admire before puberty; we tend to duplicate them. After puberty and through adolescence, we become like those with whom we associate. It continues to lesser degree in adulthood, because we tend to associate more and more with those already like us.
The claim that “everyone is an island” is code to justify ‘dropping out’ of social responsibility and interdependence. It’s used for political purposes to set interest groups against one another, to divide rather than unify society.
As to “WHO DOMESTICATES AND CIVILIZES THE WOMEN??” Princess Dogsandfitness does well in her comment below.
Basic Nature is woman and child. Basic civilization is woman and man. Advanced civilization is woman, man, and marriage. (I credit someone else with these thoughts, but I’ve lost name and source.)
The female nature guides women toward civil and domestic behaviors. They need only rely on their feminine nature and work once again as a united Womanhood hell-bent to brighten the future for women and children. Our foremothers were well underway doing precisely that before the Sexual and Cultural Revolutions of the Sixties.
Guy
“WHO DOMESTICATES AND CIVILIZES THE WOMEN????????????????????????????”
A lot of this has to do with hormones. Women are dripping with estrogen, which naturally draws women to domestication when not being coerced to behave like males. Ever heard the expression “Marriage to a woman civilizes men”? (Feminine)Women are the civilizing factor in mens’ lives. In general, women don’t need to be civilized. We just need to be taught how to use femininity to protect ourselves and, in the end, society as a whole.
Wonder why women usually have lower car and health insurance premiums? We tend to take less dumb risks. Thank you estrogen
Men, on the other hand, have the exact opposite hormone, testosterone. Both men and women produce testosterone, but men have tons more of it. Unfortunately, testosterone doesn’t naturally lead men to be civilized. To conquer and to be competitive, yes, but not to be 100% responsible members of society. That is the responsibility of women.
I know from painful experience that most men don’t want to be domesticated. Sadly, most modern men are indoctinated to WANT of need their wife to work outside the home. It sure makes things difficult for women.
What I said about men not wanting to be domesticated-what I meant to say is they don’t do it naturally and they can’t be bullied into it. I’m beginning to think they must be cajoled into it so they barely know it’s happening.
Women are saints?
All Christians are called saints in the bible.
Friend Dawn, I’m just trying to find my way. I don’t feel as fulfilled as I would like and I’m trying to figure out how to please God and be content in my life so no probably not a saint as you are using the word, just a seeker after Truth.
Kind Regards,
Princess Rita
While I almost agree with you whole-heartedly I must asy this: being a generation Xr, no woman EVER asked me if I wanted to stay home, raise a family, help my husband successed and/or relax. I wish I had that choice. But the ‘feminists’ took that choice away from me and what they gave me in return was this: a 40 hour work week, preparing dinner, putting dinner away, washing up after dinner, getting the kids in the tub, gettin gthem out of the tub, getting them to brush their teeth, in pajamas and then into bed. Then there’s the tidy-ind up around the house to do. Need I mention that motherhood and ‘wifehood’ is a more than 40 hour a week job? It’s not that we don’t love or respect our husbands- it’s just that we’re tired. Tired, tired, tired. Please don’t misunderstand us – most of you are still the heroes we first me (in our eyes) , it’s just that the feminazis have taken away our right to let women (if they so choose) be a WIFE and not a career woman with more than she can handle on her shoulders. to put it palainly, I heard it summed up like this (when deciding to stay at home or work for the usually much need extra $$$), On your tombstone would you rater have it written: “Here lies Sally, the worlds best accountant,” or, Here lie Sally a devoted wife and mother.” I fear the feminists have taken that choice away from me. I suppose my epitaph will be : “She did the best she could with the time she had after work.” God bless. With a few exceptions (like, we’re all feminists) you’ve got it bang-on.
Hi Dawn/Guy
I think families domesticate/civilise us all. We may be becoming an increasingly hostile and uncivilised society because for many years now the role and the importance of the family has been downplayed, and perhaps even denegrated.
The family is crucial in making a civilised society, both for men and women, and whether we’re single or not, we need strong, stable families. I’m going to be a little bit controversial here, but both the political left and the right are absolutely equally culpable in the modern disintegration of the family. The left for their firm belief that the traditional family set up was a prison for ALL women and therefore needed to be demolished, and the right for their firm belief that the hyper-consumerism we’ve all been part of for the past twenty years was a very good thing (it forced women further out of the home, made two income families a virtual necessity and commodified all the parts of life that used to be within the private, family sphere, from food prep. to childcare).
Do women civilise and domesticate men? Yes, they do, but that’s because all men have mothers. So women civilise and domesticate women too, that’s because the family, mothers and fathers, should be socialising their children, giving them the tools to create a successful furture and letting them know of their responsibilites in life. We need to move away from rabid individualism.
Now, are there firm roles and behaviours based on gender that must be adhered to to make a successful marriage and family? Hmm, I don’t want to dictate to others, but we have to look at what works and has worked for family life. We may have to look at what we’ve rejected in terms of past social values to build a better future for our children.
Dawn, I think the immense power of the traditonal woman has been ridiculously devalued over the past forty years. This doesn’t mean I don’t think women should not pursue academia or the professions, but I do believe that traditional womanhood was more democratic (within our own gender) than second wave feminism. All women can succeed and excel, if they wish, within the framework of traditional womanhood, but the second wavers have really only been concerned with the access to the professions…mimicing the patriarchy, rejecting the maternal.
Princess Dulce Domum,
Thanks for the wonderfully clear description of civil and domestic faults, causes, and solutions. I salute you.
Guy
I soooo relate Rachele L. That’s what I found in marriage too and it really upset me. My husband expected me to work 40 hours a week (because I’m conscientious, it often ended up being 50 with 10 unpaid) AND do everything around the home. The feminists told me that things were different now, that men would help around the house but my husband didn’t get the memo! I just physically could not do it, even in my 20s! Rachele L, I hope you will be able to find a way to come back home. Where there’s a will, there’s a way. Perhaps a part-time home-based business would fit the bill.
Dulce Domum, your words were very insightful and added a lot to the discussion. After reading what you wrote, I would also add, single or not, women need someone to care for to be fulfilled. Caring for others domesticates women. I hate to think what I would have become after my divorce, without my children to ground me.
Love you guys!
Your Loveliness Princess Rita,
You wonderfully and accurately stated: “I would also add, single or not, women need someone to care for to be fulfilled. Caring for others domesticates women.”
Feminism skewered those naturally feminine thoughts onto the kebob of other untruths about female nature.
Guy
Thank you, Princess Rita! I don’t mean to negate or downpaly the role that men play in marriage at all, but our children see us acting out our “roles” and that leads to even more chaos. Men, we don’t hate you, we love you. But when your wife/partner is working her tail off night and day with little or no help from her partner, we begin to resent you. This is just the way it goes. One can’t be expected to do all that you do and more, with no help, the hero we once believed in starts to look like an entitled child in our eyes. So, we turn our affection to our children. Most love us unconditionally – the way that you once did. So then you start to resent us for spending so much time with the children. It’s a catch-22 that we can stop! We just need a little help. Like I said, we don’t hate you, we love you, but throw in a help and we’ll fall for you all over again. And remember, a lot of women- or more would love to stay home and raise their children, keep a home and help you relax when you do come home. But, at least starting with the Generation Xrs, we were TOLD that we should and could have it all. No one can have it all. We want the love and attraction and passion that originally built the foundation of our relationship- but you just can’t get there when there’s resentment in the middle. Let’s meet each other in the middle: we’ll try to keep on trucking if you help us at home. We’ve both been tricked; women are told by fairy tale after fairy tale that a prince would one day come and take us away. Men have been taught (to be fair, mostly by their mothers) that their will always be a woman their to coddle you. And I’m going to try to not even get into the debate about Xrs growing up with pics of perfect, flawless, AIRBRUSHED women. Boy, they must have been shocked to the core when they first saw a real naked woman. That’s all I’ll say about that because I could go on forever about unrealistic expectations. But, I suppose we BOTH have unrealistic expextations. You’re our Prince, we’re your Princess. But life, and love, just doesn’t work out that way. And that’s the key word: Work. Maybe you have to work harder at your job. Maybe you have to work harder at the gym, maybe you have to work harder at that darn advanced degree from University. But the most important place you should work harder at is at your home and in your relationship. Let’s stop pointing fingers and find that spark that started it all in the first place.
And Princess Rita- I found man who takes care of me and supports me in every way. I had surgery after a car accident and he does everything; work, take care of the house, cook- you name it. He is a gem. So ladies, they are out there- you just have to look a little (perhaps past the “jocks and jerks that ONLY look so appealing). In the long run, you’ll want the nice guy and the friendship that comes with it.
Blessed Be,
Rachele L
I missed reading this blog so much! I was without internet access for sometime and I have so many entries to catch up to. This particular entry hit home and it makes me sad that things are the way they are. You’re an awesome guy for giving women advice and hope through your work.
Your Highness Carolina Dogwood,
Thank you. I love it when pretty women tell me such things. Also, welcome aboard. It’s a great day when another pretty woman joins us on this cruise to WhatWomenNeverHear.
Guy
Guy, you lovely man…I’ve commented once on this blog. You’ve already welcomed my here but I hope I will contribute more in the future. Again, you’re an awesome guy for putting up such a website!