All their life females want to be desired, and they try to be desirable. I restrict this series to sexually desirable, because women misuse sex and play to the misinformed female mind instead of male nature.
Among couples unmarried to one another, the male sex drive has three mutually exclusive gears that determine her sexual desirability:
· Conquest. Before conquest her appearance makes her desirable. Men feast with their eyes. However, conquest changes him. Her appearance remains important but more for his conquering ego than for making her desirable—at least the way she seeks to be desired.
· Access. After conquest he restructures his priorities. He pays attention to other than what first attracted him; he’s more into What’s next? Second gear of his sex drive activates, and access makes her desirable so long as it’s frequent, convenient, and mostly at his discretion.
But her desirability via frequent and convenient access fades when romantic love fades, as it always does, in a year or two. This is why commitment fails to tame and energize a man for marriage, although women try so hopefully but ignorantly to make it work.
· Opportunity. For men dissatisfied or unsatisfied with their current access, third gear kicks in. He looks elsewhere. Appearance of the unconquered and access to previous conquests—e.g., exes, booty—turns them all into desirable creatures.
This means—watch carefully, ladies—her appearance makes her desirable only to men that have not conquered her. Don’t construe this to mean her appearance is not pleasing or important to a man, her man, any man. It just means that her desirability doesn’t flow from it nearly as much as she expects. Instead, her desirability flows from what else she signifies or symbolizes to his hormonal nature.
After romantic love fades away, her appearance disappears as stimulant for desirability. Also, frequent and convenient sexual access fades away as stimulant. For enduring love to arise in him, something else should replace what makes her sexually desirable. Her chance comes after marriage, when the opportunity gear can be more easily neutralized. Details follow in tomorrow’s post 592.
8 Comments
06/17/2009 at 11:42 am
Guy, soooo true! Many married and unmarried women put way to much emphasis on being “sexy” and “spicing up their sex life”, they are’nt developing their real feminine gifts-the kind that really keep a man.
06/17/2009 at 10:11 pm
I can’t wait for tomorrow’s post. You have turned me from skeptical of this blog into a believer.
Princess Tryin2understandurside,
Couldn’t finish in one day. Second installment just published with third and maybe fourth to follow.
Guy
06/18/2009 at 7:17 am
It isn’t enough to be attractive (though it is immensely important). Femininity adds needed mystery and differentness that real men love
Femininity has to be in place both before and after marriage.
Your Loveliness Dogsandfitness,
Amen and heavy emphasis to “Femininity adds needed mystery and differentness that real men love.”
Guy
06/18/2009 at 9:58 pm
Oh no, is it just me or is the Search button gone, Guy?
Your Loveliness Reina,
Restored.
Guy
06/19/2009 at 12:57 am
Sir Guy, these truly are the “dark ages” thank God for you, who speak the truth about male and female natures. Her Majesty Grace is one lucky gal and I’m sure she knows that.
06/19/2009 at 8:33 am
I agree with you 1,000,000 times about our present time being the dark ages. Our ancestors got it right when it came to how men and women should relate to one another. They accepted and glorified each others’ differences.
Lady Grace is lucky indeed
06/19/2009 at 1:19 am
I’m not as deep as Miss Dawn, or as smart as Stacey, but I am smart enough to know the truth when I see it.
06/23/2009 at 2:15 am
Awwwe Theresa…
If you knew even a portion of the price i paid for this depth…. I chose it not- but I have a responsibility to share it. If deepness only comes this way then i wish stupidity and ignorance on all who seek enlightenment….
Love
Miss Dawn
>Just be u girl