The female nature craves the attention of men! But women have been dumbed down about it.
☼ Feminists made it fashionable. Women automatically suspect compliments to be sexual advances. Her reaction smacks the guy that he’s not trusted. He sends compliment, and feedback says ‘turkey’. He could be valuable for something other than a relationship, but she damaged the connection.
☼ The female gender appears dumb, when women too easily take offense. Appearance counts, because men feast or bypass females with their eyes. Resisting a man’s well intended charm makes her appear dumb, and women reflect on each other. To men frustrated by the actions of one, women are all just more of the same.
☼ Men don’t see unwanted sexual advances as unwanted. They hit to determine whether wanted or not. Females make mini-judgments based on who and what he is, who and what she is, and where and when it occurs. It calls for highly complex judgments that guys hope won’t be made against them. Consequently, the masculine hit is merely an invitation for her to judge him, her, time, and place. All else is hope, and as Emerson said: The world turns on hope. So, why do women take such offense to these natural happenings? They have more than what they need to handle any guy.
Like Laura has shared, I have some work to do and it will probably be a while before there will be many hits, welcome or otherwise. I’m sort of looking forward to it…why resist human nature as long as it’s not contrary to God’s Word?
I remember being angry at references in the Bible to feminine beauty. I thought the references made the men seem superficial but frankly, I don’t think God ever chastised men for it. That’s the way he made men and I guess if he hadn’t and he hadn’t made women to enjoy the attention, the human race would never have been able to “replenish the earth”.
Guy, you talk about how nice it is to see women smiling. I’ve noticed that people in general notice me and treat me better when I’m wearing a smile but I am concerned about a man taking my smile as an invitation, when it’s not meant that way. It feels dangerous, like maybe someone creepy will follow me home. I’m in an area where we have a lot of different cultures living together and I feel my chaste smile may be misconstrued. What say ye?
Your Loveliness Princess Rita,
Your judgments are impeccable for you. Smiles disarm men, but whether they distract predators or not, I just don’t know. Other than being men, I know little about them. So, don’t let up on your security precautions because of anything I say. Trust your feminine intuition.
Guy
Thank you.