‘Pretty’ is how she looks to herself. She’s done her best to attire and groom herself well. Her physical attributes shine and physical weaknesses go unnoticed to her.
· Prettiness to men fades as femininity gives way to masculinity and feminist pride.
· Men know very little about ‘feminine’. They don’t know what makes it; they just like what they see. They can individually cite a few prettifying traits or characteristics. But generally they accept and live with whatever females present. They make judgments based on that.
· Men are not in the business of generating pettiness or femininity, feminine behavior, or distinctions. Women are, because they need a man more than men need a woman.
· Making herself pretty for a man leads to disappointment every time his reaction does not match her expectation.
· Pretty can be summarized as her female magnetism. She’s good company, fun or companionable, and looks ‘great’ to him. But it varies to an infinite number of degrees, situations, and men. This makes manly reactions unpredictable, which translates to this: She prettifies herself solely to make herself feel good about herself. Anything beyond that risks disappointment and belittling of herself.
The next post concludes this series.
8 Comments
07/02/2009 at 11:21 am
“She prettifies herself solely to make herself feel good about herself. Anything beyond that risks disappointment and belittling of herself. ”
I understand and have experienced the second sentence, but the first, not so much. I like myself fine whether prettified or not.
Are you saying we should prettify more for society than for a specific man? I think I could get on board for that. I could get get on board even more for prettifying because I like the feedback I get from society when I do so. Am I making sense?
I’m sure the prettifying should probably also include the “unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit” as spoken of in the bible. Gentle and quiet as opposed to opinionated like me.
Your Loveliness Princess Rita,
You’re uncommonly blessed to like yourself prettified or not. You’re also blessed with wisdom to appreciate the merits of prettifying for society rather than a man. Well done.
Guy
07/02/2009 at 11:27 am
Hmm. You say that “Women need a man, more than men need a woman.” (?) In observing family members, my personal observation has been that a woman (e.g. a widow) usually has many interests to keep her occupied and so many people to serve, if she has friends, children, and grandchildren, so she manages very well without a man. But a man (e.g. widower) has trouble cooking for himself and difficulty keeping himself busy, and he feels the loneliness more keenly. The feminist movement propelled women into the marketplace; with having careers outside of home and often marrying late, women have thus found themselves forced to exercise capability in realms where they might not have done so otherwise. Please, Guy, will you elaborate on your statement? I’m not sure why you say that a woman needs a man more than a man needs a woman.
Your Princessness Sharon,
I agree with you that widows and divorcees seem to need a man much less in their later years, but I think it’s because they do have so many ‘outside’ interests to keep them occupied. Of course, too, experience makes them more particular. Given the choice of a good man pursuing for marriage, however, I think most would choose to marry. Notice too, how much more successful they are when the elderly do choose and marry.
The behavior of younger women speaks too loudly and confirms my statement. Why else do so many time after time violate their own best interest just to have a man, boyfriend, shack up, lover, or husband, and then break it off to try again?
Guy
07/02/2009 at 2:27 pm
“She prettifies herself solely to make herself feel good about herself. Anything beyond that risks disappointment and belittling of herself. ”
Bravo! This is right, and goes hand in hand with a woman putting her own heart first. I “prettify” my
self because I think it is fun, I feel good, and I am kind to others who look at me all day.
BTW, I am a former Hill staffer…I did not feel pretty in that world. It drained all the femininity out of me…took years to recover. I guess I needed to be more hardheaded.
Your Prettiness LB,
I love recovered Hill staffers. They have a worldview purified by having been filtered through so much phoniness.
Guy
07/02/2009 at 3:16 pm
Hey LB. Is your gravatar a muzzle? Whoa!
07/03/2009 at 10:37 am
LOL Yes! It does look to be a muzzle…not sure where that came from or how to get rid of it…
Guy are you giving me a hint…. LOL
Your Delightfulness LB,
No way, no hint, not me. I thought it was a spiked-heel shoe.
And anyway, Her Highness Dogsandfitness questioned it, not me.
Perhaps some techie tuning in can tell you how to change or get rid of it.
Guy
07/02/2009 at 3:14 pm
I can understand why Guy believes that women need men more. Look around us! All of these sad, disillusioned, desperate women willing to give up so much for so little. The guys are having a sexual smorgasbord and most women are not willing to make guys upset by putting a stop to it.
So what if guys get all huffy if we start looking out for our best interests and laugh in their faces at the mere mention of premarital sex and shacking up? Then women would stop looking desperate.
07/03/2009 at 7:28 am
Dogsandfitness,
When I was younger, but Dad would tell me that if a guy had a problem with my not putting out, I should tell him to “get to stepping.” I think older/grown women need to start telling men that too! ;>
07/04/2009 at 11:29 am
LB, if you out there still reading this thread, this is how you get change your Gravatar image.
This is assuming you have a gravatar account:
1) Log on to your Gravatar account – en (dot)
gravatar (dot) com
2) Along the top of the page, hover over “My Account”
3)Click on manage to either add or change the image that you want displayed next to you WordPress, or whatever, blog name. If the muzzle is the only image you have uploaded to Gravatar, you will have to upload other images to use.