‘Pretty’ is how she looks to herself. She’s done her best to attire and groom herself well. Her physical attributes shine and physical weaknesses go unnoticed to her.
· If women have natural prettiness and don’t enhance it, they weaken their femininity. If they copy men they lose it. This makes them even less pretty once they’re conquered.
· Physical appearance is not everything to men. The following add prettiness, because they reinforce her femininity and improve a man’s view of her: She has a joyful spirit. She makes him feel good about himself. She smiles a lot. She invents ways to be grateful. She loves his jokes or expressions of humor. She laughs easily. She encourages him. When figuratively knocked down, she gets up eagerly to continue whatever the struggle. Not to say she should do these things for men but for herself. Adopting such behaviors reinforces devotion to her female nature, which enhances her femininity and prettiness. This enhances her self-esteem and self-image.
[Personal opinion to close the series: Can women make themselves uglier than with skin tight shirts over a pregnant belly? They shame motherhood three ways: They copy beer-belly men; make future father look like a wuss; and reject modest attire that makes motherhood feminine, pretty, and so unique that nothing tops it. They also take away from the pleasant motherly glow that lights and prettifies a pregnant woman’s face.]
“They also take away from the pleasant motherly glow that lights and prettifies a pregnant woman’s face.”
Yes!! I was working a wedding a few weeks ago and one of the invitees was pregnant. She had on this beautiful wrap dress–which she’d tied under her bosom giving her a nice feminine, curvy look, rather than trying to tie it around her stomach (which I’ve seen other pregnant women do :< )–in a soft green color that complimented the natural tan of her skin, sandals with a bit of heel on them, her hair was piled up on her in one of those loose "old world Italian beauty" buns, with some curls framing her face, and simple makeup. She was radiant. She looked like a goddess.
This was a "younger crowd" wedding. The men at the party who were freshly married themselves were looking at her–staring, more like it–and I heard a number of them saying "I hope my wife looks like that when she’s pregnant.”
I have never heard a guy say that about women wearing the “I’m loud and I’m proud and I’m pregnant!!” outfits. Lol!
That whole beer belly tight tee look some pregnant women wear is not cute at all. Beer bellies, real or created, look awful on anyone!
Guy –
You’ve done all of us a great good with this series, and I’m indebted to you once again.
You know what’s sad? So many of us have needed to have our best instincts validated by someone we know only via a website – no one IRL who’s giving us the feedback and tutelage we need.
But – boy oh boy! – the rewards of following the advice! –
Thanks again, dear Guy – Love to Queen Grace – God bless you both-
Your Preciousness Laura,
Once again, I love it when pretty women tell me such things.
Guy
Guy, my spirit resonates with all that you’ve said here, along with the comments of other readers. Thank you for your thoughtful essays and your desire to instruct women, young and old.
Your Loveliness Sharon,
Thanks. I love it when pretty women lift my spirits.
Guy
It takes a lot of work to look like a goddess…is it worth it? I’ll let you know.
Your Preciousness Princess Rita,
Bless you for having the courage to exploit your strengths.
Guy
“having the courage to exploit your strength” hmm
what a great concept, I’ll have to chew on that for awhile.
The word exploit doesn’t only mean “to use or manipulate to one’s advantage”. It can also mean “draw from; make good use of”. I like the second definition better.
Your Exceptionalness Princess Rita,
Heh, heh. Her Majesty Grace kept insisting that I avoid the word for the very reason that you take exception. I long ago concluded but forgot this: The female definition is the first you cite. The male preference is the second. Of course, I meant the second.
You never fail to make me smile, and I love it.
Guy