This post is dedicated to Her Highness Tryin2understandurside. She asked me to explain this statement: “Men dominate society or WHAT people do, and women dominate culture or WHY people do what they do.” Her request triggered this and the previous post, 616.
WWNH: Whether for good or bad, women dominate the values that determine our culture, and this determines how people act in home and society.
- Women enjoy near-matriarchal power, when they maximize their influence over men by using indirect methods that keep females out of male faces but under the protective armor of one man. Specific techniques and customs empower wives to indirectly and patiently impose and spread moral, religious, and other female friendly values, standards, and expectations.
- Moral and religious for three reasons: (1) Certain beliefs energize people to live up to something larger than their selves. (2) Morality and religion appeal to and serve females to a much greater extent than males. (3) Women that live by high moral standards and religious expectations automatically earn masculine respect and can seldom be found wrong; radicals, phonies, and manipulators excluded of course.
- Husbands advance their family’s lifestyle, the quantity end of family responsibility. Men are into actions and results, and this transmutes their interests toward quantity. But women are the driving force behind quality of life. Women are into processes, which pushes them to focus on quality by setting standards and blending mutual expectations, especially in relationships.
- Wives insist, promote, and supervise husbands to implement values important to women and children, for example, brighten the family’s future. Husbands do the work directly, which enables them to dominate society, but they do so gradually but ultimately under the indirect influence of their wives. The fewer the wives, the less influence Womanhood has over the male gender.
- People change WHAT they do according to how females use their sexual assets. Individual females change to whatever suits their self-interest according to their belief, situation, and custom. Men change to have frequent and convenient access to sex, whatever that takes to please one or more females. Consequently, when men have to please women for more than sex just to get sex, they tend to help fulfill female hopes and dreams. Or, as in the last few decades, men don’t respond well to helping. Nevertheless, women remain firmly in charge of WHY people do what they do in society.
- Women lay the ground rules for social interaction. If women have low or no standards up to which men must step, then women weaken their capability to individually influence men or a man.
It’s our Judeo-Christian value system that endows women with this magnificent power. Women elsewhere are not so fortunate.
For example, in Arab and some Muslim societies, females lack cultural influence, because sex is used against them. Arab men claim that females are the oversexed gender, not males. They confirm and reinforce the untruth with actions. Men justify their own unfaithfulness by claiming irresistible seduction. They make rape victims produce four witnesses to actual penetration to prove rape. Men kill sisters and daughters that dishonor the family by committing adultery or having unmarried sex. Aunts and grannies circumcise young girls to ‘kill’ their supposed excess libido. Actions based on a single untruth thus paralyze and kill female influence with blame.
In the end, the culture you get is the culture you got from ancestors. American Womanhood inherited an advantage not recognized by modern females. Yet, they still dominate our culture because of political and religious riches of the past.
3 Comments
07/13/2009 at 9:15 am
I wanted to reply to your post because I am probably your only Muslim female reader that you have.
Please read the following article which compares women from all three religious traditions (Judaism, Christianity, and Islam).
http://twf.org/Library/WomenICJ.html
Thank you.
Your Highness Laila,
Welcome aboard. I read the article. Thanks. You seem to ask for a fair comparison, and you deserve a response.
The article you cite is long but thorough and clear. From what I can tell, it accurately represents the foundations of three religions. The author, a man I presume, cites theological differences about competing beliefs.
I, on the other hand, cite cultural outcomes. In my article above, I compare societies to distinguish different outcomes. Where he speaks to causes, I speak to effects. Where he speaks to male-dominated religions, I speak to our female-dominated culture.
I don’t argue about differing beliefs but about how political and religious beliefs fuse into a female friendly or male friendly society.
Guy
07/13/2009 at 10:21 am
Very interesting. Explains why in some countries men wreak havoc. Little or no female influence. I hope and pray women in this country wake up!
My boyfriend told me “I’ve been sweeter lately”. That’s a pretty big deal. I’m so excited he noticed.
07/13/2009 at 10:24 pm
Thank you for taking time and care to answer my question. I’m starting to understand what you are saying more and more each day. This reminds me of the phrase “Behind every great man, there is a great woman”.
We women have a great gift to inspire greatness in others by our gentle spirits and unwavering faith in them. We also have great power to crush a man’s spirit through ridicule and rejection. This in part can effect other people, both male and female, that this man come into contact with in the future.
Last weeks posts on feminism and the other “-isms” goes perfectly with all of your other blogs. Those posts argue that the decaying of male/female relationships in recent decades has resulted in an underlying decay of our society’s moral fiber.
Yesterday when I went to the bookstore I noticed a section called “female studies”. It consisted mostly of feminist rhetoric with only a few opposing sides. Interestingly, there was no “male studies” section. As I recognize feminism as just another tool used by some to their agenda across, I have become more angry and saddened by the damage it has done to my generation and future generations. It is just as, if not more, insidious as greedy marketers peddling violence or cigarettes or other useless products to us.
Thank you for your posts.