Her Highness ‘A Questioner’ commented at post 619, “I’m often saddened by the fact that hubby doesn’t call/txt during the day, and that generally speaking, once he does see me, he usually asks for food!! I have to remind him sometimes that I’m not the cafeteria lady. ”
Nowadays, our expectations are such that if we don’t get immediate responses from our electronic leashes we cast to those closest to us, the world must be coming to an end. But guess what? Barring some unforeseen tragic event, the world doesn’t end. But somehow, we are still disappointed. Why is the culprit always the man with employment dedication and obligations?
Selfishness? Narcissism? Or, is it just the difference between the sexes?
So it might make sense to just give a sigh and believe that, perhaps, ‘no news is good news’. Maybe it’s OK to let him be the man he strives to be, without distractions, as he competes with the other gladiators in the Ring of Life. At least these days, it’s never a fight to the death.
Finally, as a man, I would hope that you might find some small satisfaction that he considers you ‘the cafeteria lady’. I would also hope that you holding that title inspires him to accept many other titles: such as yard boy, trash man, pool boy, toilet plunger, car washer, Mr. Fixit, etc. Would you prefer, with lessened respect that would accompany it, Mr. Cafeteria Guy instead?
While ‘cafeteria lady’ is not so becoming to you in your mind, it is one of the true solaces that a man finds in his significant other. Good food. Not TGIFridays, but what you selflessly create in your kitchen and enjoy together in the dining room/kitchen table/recliners with TV trays.
I don’t want to be trite, but old sayings are precisely that because they have withstood the test of time. And time is always the great equalizer. I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, “The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach?” A simpleton saying for many, yet it’s timeless and priceless. In fact, a good description of the origin can be found here…
Never underestimate the power, influence, and control that you wield with a mere spatula or spoon. Else, you underestimate yourself in the eyes and heart of the man you love, and perhaps, the one who will always love you more than any other.
Your Collective Highnesses,
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