690. Attitude of Gratitude — Part 1


Ladies, this could be the most meaningful series in the blog, if you can master it. It does, however, require study and perhaps restudy.  

 A mutual attitude of gratitude jumpstarts mutual happiness, but it doesn’t come easily. The sexes display gratefulness differently. However, she’s the relationship expert and controlling partner for cultivating it!

So many women miss this natural outcome: Consistently treat your man unlovingly, and whatever love you had dies faster than his departure.

 Truism: Feelings follow actions. We can’t feel one way and act another for very long. For example, we can’t love a person and act unlovingly for very long or vice versa. Our daily choices invariably determine how we feel, and gratefulness energizes the female nature.  

  • Her actions that show gratefulness generate gratitude within her. Since the female nature embodies a deep sense of caring, serving others generates gratitude for the people served. Becoming more grateful encourages her to be more direct and action-oriented in service to others.
  • Husband expects to be primary recipient, but his mind and heart work differently. He reciprocates indirectly with his job and work.
  • He expresses his gratitude for her through daily actions of  producing, providing, protecting, and problem-solving for her. That’s who he is, that’s how and what he does, and that’s enough in his mind. He indirectly shows his gratitude for her.
  • He daily proves himself worthy. His actions speak, and words are unnecessary. It’s up to her to stir him to expressing words she longs to hear but that he seldom volunteers. It calls for relationship expertise.
  • His job and work generate gratitude within him, but gratitude for himself more than anyone else. It’s the outcome of male nature identifying so closely with job and work.

There’s also a paradox: The root of mutual gratefulness calls for her to be more direct, because he indirectly displays gratefulness. More tomorrow.

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One Response to 690. Attitude of Gratitude — Part 1

  1. Ken Kendall

    I don’t believe that men have to act this way. They really can do more than just provide, protect and problem solve. They just need a little training and a safe place to do it.

    I write about how men can do all the other things that women need from them. I would love for you all to give me any ideas and suggestions for other topics.

    http://whatsheneedsfromyou.wordpress.com

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