This summary completes the series about grateful actions that can lead to mutual happiness.
Wife directly demonstrates her gratitude for husband, which makes her happy with him.
♦ That’s it. Her happiness-seeking ‘job’ is simple and easy.
♦ Unless, that is, she can’t show gratitude. She may have chosen or turned him into Mr. Wrong. Or she may suffer low self-esteem or high self-centeredness and expect more from him than she can ever give.
Husband indirectly demonstrates his gratitude for wife, but success depends upon her confirmation.
- He shows his gratitude for her by producing, providing, protecting, and problem solving for her and the kids.
- Success comes from her respect and dependency, which makes him grateful for who he is and what he does, and this opens the door for his happiness.
You may conclude this, and it’s true. The best evidence of her gratitude is to reward him with respect and recognition for his efforts on her behalf.
One final reminder: A few negative words can poison good intentions and nullify positive actions. Consequently, words, discussions, and opinions either confirm his contributions or mutual unhappiness follows. (Full disclosure is vastly overrated.)