This post continues my attack on the principle of full disclosure but not the details or propriety of disclosing one’s thoughts and feelings to another. I use the definition near the top of yesterday’s article, 717.
Full disclosure creates many more self-inflicted wounds to females than cited yesterday:
- He’s more easily convinced of her value, when he by himself discovers and evaluates her worth to him and his self-interest.
- Women have an uncanny ability to figure out a man in context of what he should know about her to brighten her future. Full disclosure short circuits this ability.
- She acts suspicious and distrustful, if he acts differently from what she expects from her disclosures. Suspicion and distrust easily spill over to impact sexual fidelity.
- Men don’t disclose fully, even if pressured into it by counseling pressures. They only disclose what they absolutely have to in order to preserve self-interest.
- When a woman discloses deep heart and soul details that a man would never share, she comes across desperate.
- If he won’t rise to meet her expectations before conquest, he certainly won’t after full disclosure.
- If he mistreats her, it signals lack of respect. Full disclosure only makes it worse.
- Full disclosure that emerges with fault-finding through the marriage years burdens both spouses. They mostly learn, however, to live with it.
In the end, a woman should disclose only what she uncovers about him that makes him find her attractive and desirable for a long-term investment of his time and effort. Unfair? Of course, but it makes Nature work for her.