WOMEN
· Women are driven to nest, nurture, and nestle with loved ones. They need a brighter future for them and their children. By their very nature, however, nesting, nurturing, and nestling generate little wealth until kids become consumers and suppliers respond by creating more products aka wealth.
· Women convert wealth into convenience to brighten their present day and security to brighten their future. It also helps ease the females’ ego-burden of male dominance.
· A woman can be employed outside the home and on the surface not need a man, but what happens in background? She still depends on men, because they remain in charge or they produce the preponderance of new wealth that uplifts society. Men dominate the workplace, and women seeking to climb career ladders copy masculine values and standards to succeed. So, male domination is unlikely to change.
· Consequently, women need men to share existing wealth and keep creating it for sake of a growing economy that helps so much to fulfill female hopes and dreams.
Chapter 3 tomorrow introduces the Swap-meet.
I’m surprised you haven’t gotten angry mail on this one Guy. What does happen in the background when women work? I’d love a man’s perspective on this. I have observed a lot of working couple relationships over the years and have noticed a lot of problems; problems that tend to be smoothed over by busyness and consumerism. One great weakness is that children tend to raise themselves in this scenario and it looks like all is well until they grow to adulthood and a lack of wisdom and family loyalty emerge to surprise the busy parents who thought material provision trumped teaching and nurturing in their parenting.
Your Exceptionalness Jill F.,
You say: “What does happen in the background when women work? I’d love a man’s perspective on this.”
And I say: Lack of clarity sent the wrong message. I shall reword that paragraph to read as follows:
o A woman can be employed outside the home and on the surface not need a man, but what happens in background? She still depends on men, because they remain in charge or they produce the preponderance of new wealth that uplifts society. Men dominate the workplace, and women seeking to climb career ladders copy masculine values, standards, and behaviors to succeed. So, male domination is unlikely to change.
Thanks for the tip.
Guy
P.S. I almost forgot. The rest of your comment is very stong and accurate. Thanks especially for this sentence: “[I]t looks like all is well until they grow to adulthood and a lack of wisdom and family loyalty emerge to surprise the busy parents who thought material provision trumped teaching and nurturing in their parenting.
G.
Very well put Jill.
Sir Guy,
The issue of women working has me befuddled as to how women are to respond. You say “Men dominate the workplace, and women seeking to climb career ladders copy masculine values and standards to succeed. ” I see that as being the case, but I don’t necessarily see it as being the woman’s choice, or even reflective of her deeper desires.
Aside from the husbands who don’t want to be the sole provider and encourage their wives to work, there are the countless single women who cannot leave the workplace in order to prove that, really at heart, they’d rather be at home tending to home and family.
If men tend to view single women who are successful career-wise as being in competition with them, how can such women show that they are not when working is a necessity?
I should admit that the issue is somewhat personal, as I’m in professional school; but I nearly left because I felt that it wasn’t reflecting my priorities in life. At the same time, I’m going back to finish because it seems unwise to intentionally limit oneself in anticipation of that knight in shining armor who will come along to provide and protect. I don’t mean that cynically, just that a woman who refuses to grow in her abilities and “make something of herself” because she’s waiting for marriage seems to be taking a big risk. If a woman gladly leaves the workplace because she has a husband, that makes sense, but what about those for whom no such man is in sight? Should single women in this position gravitate more toward female-dominated professions?
I had a man tell me that he felt he had nothing to offer, and while I know that part of that had to do with his own situation in life, part of me felt that if I weren’t pursuing the degree that I am, that he wouldn’t have seen what he brought to the table as too little. I don’t want that barrier to be there, but I can’t quite justify throwing that away so that men are less intimidated. Though, if I were guaranteed that it would work, I could probably be persuaded to do so.
Perhaps this is simply ingrained feminist thinking, but I guess I’m’ more concerned about the fact that husband and family is something that may or may not happen for a lot of women, whereas good work done though a career (like that of doctors, for instance) is something that women know that they can pursue and will be fruitful. Waiting for marriage may not be.
Thoughts?
Your Dreamliness Denise,
I understand your dilemma to be something like this: How can single women succeed in business and still attract men for marriage? I’ll respond tomorrow.
Guy
P.S. The response I promised for Wednesday is this: I need more time. Stay tuned.
G.
P.P.S. It looks like the response will be two articles for publishing on Friday and Saturday, #1013 and #1014.
G.