SWAP-MEET
· No matriarchy has arisen or replaced patriarchy over the past 7,000 years. More recently, feminists tried and failed to turn patriarchy into an abbreviated matriarchy. Those historical facts suggest women will be eternally blessed and made hopeful by male-dominated, wealth-building society.
· The question then pops up: How do women capitalize on what they face? How do they balance their interests with those of men? Before Feminism came along, our foremothers intuitively knew how. The answer squirts out in this misty spray: Women depend on, use, and exploit men in society and around the house. (Some details tomorrow)
· Our foremothers exploited this expression: ‘The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world’. They understood that well-raised, well-masculinized, and well-civilized boys start the process by which men learn to give up their independence in favor of family responsibility.
· Under that Womanhood-woven and feminine banner, moms civilize boys, girls tame adolescents, husband-seekers tangle and tie up men in platonic relationships, and wives domesticate husbands. Women and not adolescents set the standards and expectations for younger females. Ladies lead by example.
· Under nurturing leadership by moms and other ladies, most females bonded around one particular theme. I don’t imagine it was phrased this way, but the actions of Womanhood produced and promoted this cultural value: Providing unmarried sex discourages males from yielding their independence and accepting family responsibility.
· Intercourse events outside of marriage were countless, but mature women centered their soft-hearted kindness on children, their own husband, and their family. They used their hard-headed nature to handle others and especially to keep men in their place. It all came together over many decades to make our culture much more female-friendly and stabilize society with the family as primary institution.
· Before social disturbances in the 1960s reversed the trend, our foremothers had learned to convert men from bachelorhood to marriage. Stable family life was in vogue. They achieved equilibrium with this arrangement: Husbands dominated society and the workplace. Wives dominated the culture and the home. (Society is what we do, and culture is why we do it.)
Chapter 4 tomorrow cites the details mentioned in next-to-top paragraph.
How deliciously dry your dissection of human conditionings remain! Turning the inner “trappings” of a love relationship into currency; only a man could come up with this sort of laughable truth. You sir, should have been a poet!
I’m glad Guy is so logical. A lot of women today don’t use their heads and end up on the loosing end of the male-female proposition.
If you think there’s no currency in relationships, ask yourself: if Tiger Woods worked at a fast food joint rather than being a world renowned golf pro, do you think gorgeous super-model Elin Nordegren would have looked twice at him? Everyone brings something to the table.
I acknowledged the currency, though I do not think the one he refers to is the monetary type…which is obviously what Mr. Woods is dealing with currently. But you are, of course, certainly right about the “loosing” end, ergo the knots that become necessary to repair the fraying of our society.
Ladies,
As a “recovered” post-feminist girl, I remember how I used to whole heartedly think the way Zephanie and Laurie did. The thing is, depending on how you view YOURSELF AS FEMALE, either view will make sense to you. What I have discovered is that the more beautiful I feel, the more feminine and attractive to the opposite sex, the more traditional views appeal to me. But back in my feminist days, I was angry about my abusive childhood which included molestation by male neighbors and abondonment by my father-
My father left when I was 6 years old- and that is when I became obese- and have been ever since. Plus, I had never known anything about the virtues of modesty or chasity. It was completely non exsistant.
My experince made my heart fertile for the philosophy of feminism. At a young 18 yeas old, it all made a lot of sense- men were the problem and the patriarchywas the reason for my crappy childhood- and for all the “priviledges” I did not have when I grew up that the “pretty girls” did.
So I never understood that I had inherited a legacy of a system that was broken long before I was concieved.
That my life was partly the result of the poor choices of adults who had inherited what they passed on.
Now then, when we look at Zephanies comment she does not even realize that by her very answer she is conferming what she seeks to dispute.
Us women are emotional, and she was railing against anyone who seeks to turn a feminine ideation of the “inner trappings of love” into something that is framed in a more logical way.
Women are naturally turned off by the idea of relationships being based on “currency”- but is it not true that the prettier a woman is the less she will be turned off by it? How many people who are rich- hate wealth?
lol, Dawn you caught me in the act…i am at heart a satirist; you can read that on my blog at mmnk.wordpress.com aka “most men never know” (by the way i’m an absolute failure at blogging and it doesn’t exist)
Ive noticed that all holidays except for the Fourth of July were centered around women and food (men barbecue) Christmas, Valentines day, Etc. Also, Do you think that depression in women is a lot worse because of the sex revolution? and women being ‘independent’ without the benefit of marriage? Men aren’t independent when they are married either—it just seems that people are taking more and more antidepresant drugs these days when they didnt use to–What do you think?
Your Beautifulness Boomer Babe,
You ask questions with clear cut causes and effects.
“Do you think that depression in women is a lot worse because of the sex revolution? …and women being ‘independent’ without the benefit of marriage?”
Yes, I do. Cheap and easy unmarried sex takes women out of the control role of the unmarried scene with consequent loss of independence. Lack of a sense of control causes depression.
“Men aren’t independent when they are married either—it just seems that people are taking more and more anti-depressant drugs these days when they didn’t use to–What do you think?”
Unmarried men are too independent for their own good. Without obligations for something bigger and better than themselves, they grind slowly and often depressed to a walk through life. Married men have their self-respect torn down by women that don’t know jack about Jack. Men lack the independence to restore it, so they vacate the premises.
Guy