Many factors make or break a marriage. The following are differences that tend to seal the deal for success, ‘dabs of glue’ as it were.
- She’s mostly hard-headed and competes with him during courtship. She’s primarily soft-hearted and cooperates with him after marriage.
- Men seek relationships for fun and functionality. Women seek relationships for emotional comfort.
- She loves her man completely. He predominantly loves his work or whatever he does to prove himself to himself.
- Husband produces, provides, protects, and problem solves, which proves his value to himself. He does it to prove himself to her, if she appreciates and rewards him.
- Wives expect husbands to be romantic, but romance slows a man’s conquering nature. Men are as attractively romantic as a woman requires before she accepts foreplay or sex. (Courtship provides time and opportunity to teach him to measure up to what she expects in marriage.)
- Romance and foreplay usually precede sexual union. Men must be taught the details patiently and indirectly, or women eventually find their man lacking in one or the other.
- When a couple starts to split up, it often starts here: Women marry expecting their man to change, but he doesn’t. Men marry expecting their wife not to change, but she does. [I credit an unknown emailer from years ago for this one.]
AND SHE SAYS: You put the entire burden on women. What about husbandly obligations?
AND GUY SAYS: Good point, but women have for decades been hearing about male inadequacies, outrageousness, irresponsibility, incompetence, inconsiderateness, selfishness, self-centeredness, and everything else that supports blaming men for relationship failures. This blog focuses on What Women Never Hear.