NOTE: In case I’ve been misunderstood: Each woman engages in foreplay at her discretion, her limits, her enjoyment. I never intended to imply that women should not engage in it. I do mean, however, that the discretion and competitive hard-headedness a female exemplifies sets the stage upon which her character and value as potential wife can be elegantly portrayed to men. If a man fails to value her wifely potential, he’s looking for something less, so let him find it elsewhere.
- After his conquest, many shortcuts are possible. So foreplay after won’t be same as before, unless she reshapes his thinking starting with every encounter after conquest. Her easy arousal and yielding prematurely for second and later encounters sets the stage for inadequate foreplay later in life.
- If she accepts suggestive words, ideas, or conversation about sex, she opens the door to foreplay.
- Each time she refuses his advances, she impresses him to do things her way, if he wants to keep her.
- His respect for her grows best, when she imposes and sticks to her standards about going no further. Especially when her firm decisions override heavy passions he has stirred in her.
- Each time she wilts under his romantic pressures and allows further advances beyond her standards or expectations, she issues permission chits to press more aggressively onward toward conquest.
- If she depends upon halting foreplay only with emotion, then he will win. If she controls it with previous hard-headed decisions, then she can win by either identifying the guy as not for her or enjoying intercourse under her terms about foreplay and preparation.
More tips tomorrow.
Dear Guy,
Hello. I have been reading through the posts on this blog for days. I just found the blog recently. In other posts you have mentioned being “hard-headed” and “competitive” BEFORE marriage. But I don’t know what you mean, especially by “competitive.” Does this refer only to sex as in the example in this post? Or to other things as well? Can you offer me an example/scenario of what “competitive” means?
Thank you
Your Highness Girl,
Hard-headed means standing up for your own best interests. Don’t always be acceding to his wishes or caving to your soft-heartedness. But then again, don’t be getting in his face over it.
Competition works well for you before he conquers you for sex. After that, a man expects only cooperation with him and his main agenda. The more you compete to delay first sex with a man, the more he’s forced to find out who and what you really are to get you in bed. But, he learns in the process just what promise you hold for him and his future.
First sex can win his commitment but that shouldn’t be enough for you. Delaying his conquest provides time for his devotion to you to develop. (The blog as good articles about commitment by words and devotion by actions.)
Guy
Dear Guy,
Thank you for the clarity. So, the “competition” refers strictly to the No Sex Before Marriage Battle, and/or possibly other instances of a man trying to get a woman to betray her moral character/standards. And I presume by “competing” this does not mean “combative.”
Thank you kindly for your wisdom
Your Highness Girl,
Yes, you have it right. If combative is required, he’ll never become devoted to you. No man who respects a woman as much or more than himself would stoop to fighting with an apparently (physically) weaker person. High respect commands cooperation, whereas low or no respect does not. Between the sexes, that is.
Guy