A few more tips lead to closing this series:
- The later the cutoff of deepening foreplay, the greater the frustration. The greater the frustration, the less respect he holds for her, the less inclined she becomes to terminate foreplay the next time, and the closer they draw to intercourse.
- If she measures her sense of self-worth or his worthiness for her by her passions under foreplay pressures, he’s on the road to intercourse and she will perhaps lose him later rather than sooner.
- If he won’t respect body parts as untouchable when she seeks snuggling romance, does he respect her enough to love her? If he’s told to not touch or his wandering hands are moved, how does he react? Respectful withdrawal and restraint? Or, lack of restraint, persistence against her wishes, and disrespect?
- If he won’t honor her decisions regarding chasteness and allow her to prevent excess temptation, will he honor her other personal decisions once they marry? Don’t count on it.
- Foreplay is the best testing ground to prove that he’s worthy of her, to condition his thinking habits to accept her decisions. After marriage, or at least after romantic love fades in a year or two, few things will be more important to her than his respect for her opinions and decision-making.
- Think about a lengthy courtship. Gradual expansion of foreplay easily leads to sex before marriage. However, a firm stopping point can be negotiated and agreed to early in courtship. If he goes along and his devotion accepts conquest after marriage, she’s won the ballgame.
So, this series ends. Foreplay has been brought to a boil, condensed, and separated from romance, love, and female wishful thinking. It’s a great tool to show her wifely potential, but she has to exploit it.
I found this statement interesting and want to dissect it a little-this is how it spoke to me:
“The later the cutoff of deepening foreplay, the greater the frustration. The greater the frustration, the less respect he holds for her, the less inclined she becomes to terminate foreplay the next time, and the closer they draw to intercourse.”
“The later the cutoff of deepening foreplay, the greater the frustration.”
If you love someone, perhaps you should practice self-control so you don’t frustrate them by cutting them off later.
“The greater the frustration, the less respect he holds for her,”
No one likes a tease.
“the less inclined she becomes to terminate foreplay the next time,”
Female feels guilty for being a tease, it weakens her resolve and she is likely to let things go farther the next time.
“and the closer they draw to intercourse.”
Coupled with the guilt, the deeper foreplay heightens her arousal and makes it harder not to go all the way.
Your Ten-ness Abigail,
Bet you’re a good test-taker. In the Navy’s supreme phrase of praise, Well done!
Guy
Guy, I would like to thank you for posting these entries on foreplay. A year ago (around the time I started reading this blog), I made the decision to wait for sex until marriage. But I always wondered about foreplay and when I should stop things before they got too heavy. Your advice was very clear and direct. Not to mention perfect timing because I am currently in the beginning of a relationship and as a girl I know I’m the one who ultimately controls the timing . I came to an intuitive conclusion that I should not let things progress beyond kissing, and be careful not to arouse him while snuggling (purposely or accidentally); your entries reinforced those beliefs and will help me remind myself to follow through with my decisions!
Your Exceptionalness Manda,
Guy