Women could adopt many a motto for their gender. One of my favorites deserves mention by itself:
- Learn to give and you learn to live.
Until you experience joy from giving, you won’t fully enjoy the pleasure of living. It’s feminine nature in action. If you desire to be more feminine, find more ways to give of yourself.
Guy can explain the reasons it works so well. The following comes from him.
Why and How It Works
Mrs. Guy cites the wonders of giving of yourself. Not gifting of objects but delivering unsolicited favors, words, and burden-lifting with two results: From your actions someone feels better about their self, and you are rewarded with pleasurable thoughts about yourself.
You give yourself to your children, and we call it unconditional love. But you love your husband conditionally. Giving of yourself pushes your love toward the unconditional and becomes a change agent to help turn romantic love into enduring love.
Actions program the subconscious mind. The more you give of yourself, the more you’ll give of yourself. The pleasurable thoughts you receive program your own mind to motivate you to do more of the same.
Men don’t appreciate unearned gifts, but husband knows he deserve you. So, giving of yourself is something he ‘earned’. You’re always welcome to do it, but don’t expect that he’ll reciprocate until he ages into or beyond middle age.
Giving of one’s self is not inherent in the male nature. However, a wife that does it for years eventually finds that husband gets more like her. It’s the self-fulfilling prophecy effect: We become like those with whom we associate.
Mothers, especially those without husbands, often misplay it. They have so much love to give their children that they fall into indulgent love. They pamper and protect kids beyond what they need, and it stunts childhood development.
Their nature energizes females to extend themselves on behalf of others. The male nature does not. When women set the example by giving of themselves, men eventually catch on to the joy of giving—not all, but many do.