Ladies: Sir Guy’s schedule went awry, so I substitute today with these quips and tips for your tea and crumpets.
- When men don’t try hard to please women, it’s because they’ve learned they don’t have to.
- Fix up, groom up, and dress up better to feel good about aging.
- By hiding, disguising, or shining each flaw, she leaves men in awe.
- Families split, parents demean each other, and children hold criticisms against the messenger. Bad mouth your spouse and lose respect of your kids.
- Checkout courtesy: If you long for special treatment in the checkout line, find ways to make cashiers feel better about themselves. Especially true with men checkers outer. Near-flirting charm, I call it. It’s much more fun, too, than standing with a fearful scowl screening for mistakes or cheating.
- Women go along to get along, and after conquest have to get up and go along.
- Girls boy-crazy think lazy.
- Women instinctively want a man with character and integrity, but they screen and judge primarily for other attributes, words, and promises.
- Women offer sex to find love that does not bond. Men offer love that does not bond to get sex.
More next week.
“When men don’t try hard to please women, it’s because they’ve learned they don’t have to.”
This is the one truth on WWNH that makes me despair of my (younger) generation of men ever being worth dating, courting or marrying. This is by no means true of all, of course, but the standards are so low to the point that I feel most I’ve encountered can’t even be taught anew because for every 1 woman who holds up a higher standard there are 3 (or 4, or 5) that don’t. They can just move on to an
easier catch.
Thank goodness I believe in God’s providence and provision in such matters, otherwise off to the nunnery I’d go!
Your Suppleness Denise,
Very good points. There may be hope in this thought: Social and cultural values change every generation, and that means about every six years in America today. Over the past five decades about seven generations accelerated a decline in cultural pleasantness, courtesy, kindheatedness, compassion, and extreme female friendliness. If one generation of girls can start the climb back to abstinent teaching of boys, other generations will follow. But one generation must convert sex from fashionable to for-marriage-only.
Guy
“…Girls boy-crazy think lazy…”
This is a very ugly truth!
I think we are trending toward better relations between men and women. The popularity of books like “The Rules”, “I Kissed Dating Goodbye”, “Boundaries in Dating” and the like show that there is a yearning among women to be cherished again and these books provide some of the tools to help with that. I hope that to these new understandings, women will also add prayers to God for strength to maintain their new standards. It isn’t easy to be a trailblazer!
Princess Rita, et al, you are so right and God raises his greatest Saints in times such as these. Our Lord Jesus will give much grace to young ladies to have the courage to maintain Christian virtues and the boundaries necessary to counter the pagan anti- Christian onslaught. Thank God for Sir Guy and Lady Grace for inspiring these strong souls to fight the courageous battle with your wise tactics. It is truly what women never hear even from most pulpits.
Oh No Denise! Don’t go off to the nunnery lol!
Ladies, there is something in good men that longs for a “real” lady (just as so many women hope for a “knight in shining armor”. Remember, great things develop in our character during times of “waiting”.
“Girls boy-crazy think lazy.”
I really should be doing homework, but I happened to stumble on this post and had to comment on that little gem. It is so true!!!
I am 21 and I have grown up with all the man-bashing, boy crazy girls in school and on sports teams, and pretty much anywhere else you can think of. I could never understand how my friends could be talking about guys and for every other one say, “Oh my god, he is so hot!!”. Then they would ask me which guys I thought were “hot”. I hated being in situations like that because I cannot stand people calling other people hot or sexy or other terms like that. It just seems disrespectful to me. I always try to follow the golden rule, treat others how you want to be treated, so I wasn’t about to go around talking about boys like that. I know they were having the same conversations about me and my friends, but that doesn’t mean I have to have the same talks with my friends.
I am definitely up to the challenge of being a real lady in these times. But it definitely is a challenge. It can get frustrating when guys are talking to me, and one of the reasons they like me/like talking to me is because I go to church every Sunday, and I am really involved so I’m a “good girl”. Then when they find out that I’m not just a Christian on Sundays, and that I will not compromise on my morals it seems like they just move right along to the next girl that might “compromise”. At the same time, though, its also nice because I know if a guy does that, he’s not the kind of guy I’m interested in, so then I move right along as well.
I believe God has an amazing plan for me, and part of it includes who I am going to marry. When I think about the fact that he is somewhere on this planet right now, it makes me want to wait for him. We probably haven’t met yet because we both may have a bit more growing up to do, and if I want him to be the right man for me, I am going to spend my single time as making myself the right woman for him. I guess that falls along the line with treat others as you want to be treated, except I am just holding myself to a higher standard because I know I’m worth it, and I know where my worth comes from (Jesus
). I’m certainly not going to improve myself by being boy crazy, and hooking up with random guys. It’s actually kind of fun telling my boy crazy friends when they ask which guys are hot, that I’m not crazy about all boys, only one, I just haven’t met him yet 
.
-Brittany
Your Highness Brittany,
Welcome aboard. It’s a great day when another pretty woman joins us on this cruise to WhatWomenNeverHear.
It’s a pleasure to read your story, both clearly and ethically. You shine beautifully for some deserving man.
Guy
Thanks for such a warm welcome, Guy!! I’ve actually posted on your blog a couple times before under the same name, I just got a different email address.