- Her nature seeks togetherness and favors personal warmth. His nature seeks freedom and favors personal privacy.
- The male nature does not accept her sexual past with the casual and forgetful manner that she can accept his. (Nature shuns equality, and people have to work to even achieve fairness.)
- He doesn’t feel weary, but she sees it in his face. She feels weary, but he doesn’t see it.
- The promise of frequent and convenient sex earns a man’s commitment. The promise of close companionship earns a woman’s commitment.
- Male dependability earns devotion that holds a woman. Female inner beauty earns devotion that holds a man.
- Women talk to men, but men don’t listen. (It’s a dominance thing.) Men talk to women, but women don’t hear. (It’s rejection of his dominance; she knows a better way.)
- Men pursue significance (which enables a woman to depend on him). Women pursue harmony (which makes husbands expect it in the home).
- Sex means short term to men, because they can live in the present. Sex means long term for women, because they need and use it to brighten their future.
941. Sex Differences Do Matter #02
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Random question: Does non-sexual physical contact/affection/cuddling help bond males?
Also, could you elaborate on this please?
“He doesn’t feel weary, but she sees it in his face. She feels weary, but he doesn’t see it.”
Your Loveliness Anonymous,
First answer: Not especially. Personal warmth is not a turn off, but it’s no turn on either. He may initiate it to show affection, but don’t expect it to be habitual, because men have Affection Delivery Disorder. (See A.D.D. at post #3)
Second answer: She can read him better than he can read her; it’s her nature in action. He doesn’t like to feel weary; it takes away from his sense of significance. Again, it’s his nature in action.
Guy
I believe thats true BECAUSE it’s the woman who carries the child—-for FORTY LONG WEEKS! Women, who are average know they cannot be loose with men–it only takes men a few seconds to be a father, but for a woman, almost a whole year.—I also believe, if women don’t give men a lot of sex, they will be stronger..prostressitution also has to be rare…theres not enough strong guys these days…women seem to be carrying too much stress that our ancestors didn’t complain as much about
All good submit
Please explain: ‘The promise of frequent and convenient sex earns a man’s commitment.’ Could this mean that an ‘emotionally unavailable man’ could see his heart soften with a situation wherein there is ‘frequent and convenient’ sex?
What does this mean for ‘friends with benefits situations’ or ‘booty calls’
Your Highness Anonymous,
Welcome aboard. Always glad to have another pretty woman sign up for this cruise.
A man’s commitment in the interest of sex isn’t nearly the same as devotion to one woman. His heart’s not likely to soften because he’s still looking for new of better options. Also, men jump at the chance for frequent and convenient FWB and booty. Why shouldn’t they commit?
Guy
dear sir guy
sorry but would you mind clarifying for me?
you say : “A man’s commitment in the interest of sex isn’t nearly the same as devotion to one woman. His heart’s not likely to soften because he’s still looking for new of better options.”…i take this to mean he wont commit (as in marry you) because he is still looking for the next best thing even though he is having sex with you…favourable situation for him but not for you…
then : “men jump at the chance for frequent and convenient FWB and booty. Why shouldn’t they commit? “… do you mean “why SHOULD he commit?”… as in he is getting everything he wants (sex) without the real commitment (marriage) so why SHOULD he commit to anything different? i want to make sure i fully understand.
thanks as always
Your Highness Gcs15,
For your first conclusion: Yes, you’re right, except that he may marry and just keep on looking. Commitment is chump change. Only his devotion should lead her to the altar.
For your last question: You twisted it wrongly. Why shouldn’t they commit? is the correct interpretation meaning that the cost is so low they can have frequent and convenient access for very little and then easily escape FWB, booty, or shack up.
Guy
thank you…at least i understood the point correctly even if our wording is different!