This series will not be easy to make clear. So, pardon me if I oversimplify or repeat what’s gone before. This sums everything up: Men claim actions speak louder than words. Women may agree but they function oppositely. And a major stumbling block has to do with gratitude and expressing it or not.
To explore differences, we need a new acronym: GART. It stands for gifts, affection, rewards, and thanks and anything else that conveys one’s gratefulness. GART means far more to females than males, and so this series focuses on women expressing gratitude to men.
The soft-hearted side of female nature works diligently to reliably express gratefulness with GART. Women consider GART critical to relationship management.
The hard-hearted side of the male nature tends to overlook GART. It’s a major reason men don’t do relationship management; their nature doesn’t emphasize the basic requirements.
Women treat differently each of the GART expressions of female gratitude. They select what’s appropriate for each situation.
Men receive GART elements as alike, and they impact men differently than women expect. Not that a ‘thank you’ means the same as a reward or affection, but that all GART passes through the same masculine filters. This means that women don’t get the mileage they expect, when they try to express their gratefulness to a man as women express it to each other.
GART II provides details about the masculine filters. It’s next at #965.