♂ As a couple moves far beyond conquest, foreplay and intimacy after sex both shorten. It’s nothing wrong with her. Once frequent and convenient sex are available, his nature suffers an impatience that refocuses quickly on what comes next—cigarette, beer, sleep, departure, job?
♂ Sex before marriage keeps her from knowing his true self and him from grasping her full array of wifely qualities.
♂ A husband appreciates wifely confirmations of his astuteness, skill, and persistence about his job, especially if such feedback is lacking at work. It’s a form of respect without which he starts to look for appreciation and encouragement elsewhere.
♂ Men capture and hold a good woman. Far too easily, however, they seek to upgrade when a better one comes along. This natural longing continues after marriage, unless he’s convinced he already has the best or nearly best available for him. (Don’t you see what a courtship job she has convincing him that there’s no one better than her for him?)
♂ Feminists altered masculine competition. Nowadays, men compete with women for sex, instead of competing with men for a woman. Two major consequences:
- Women are pressured away from attracting a husband to attracting a boyfriend. Thus, men don’t have to rise up to husbandly standards and easily sink to boyfriend standards.
- If men can’t have a beauty of a sex object, they don’t want a wife. This changes social pressures to make women good primarily for sex and little else of greater value.