♂ As a couple moves far beyond conquest, foreplay and intimacy after sex both shorten. It’s nothing wrong with her. Once frequent and convenient sex are available, his nature suffers an impatience that refocuses quickly on what comes next—cigarette, beer, sleep, departure, job?
♂ Sex before marriage keeps her from knowing his true self and him from grasping her full array of wifely qualities.
♂ A husband appreciates wifely confirmations of his astuteness, skill, and persistence about his job, especially if such feedback is lacking at work. It’s a form of respect without which he starts to look for appreciation and encouragement elsewhere.
♂ Men capture and hold a good woman. Far too easily, however, they seek to upgrade when a better one comes along. This natural longing continues after marriage, unless he’s convinced he already has the best or nearly best available for him. (Don’t you see what a courtship job she has convincing him that there’s no one better than her for him?)
♂ Feminists altered masculine competition. Nowadays, men compete with women for sex, instead of competing with men for a woman. Two major consequences:
- Women are pressured away from attracting a husband to attracting a boyfriend. Thus, men don’t have to rise up to husbandly standards and easily sink to boyfriend standards.
- If men can’t have a beauty of a sex object, they don’t want a wife. This changes social pressures to make women good primarily for sex and little else of greater value.
I think this is a reason there are too many single women today when most want to be married; I know too many 30 somethings that are in this position…we just forgot how to be ladies…unfortunately, it takes women as a collective to get it back, and most don’ t want to
Boomer babe,
You are so right.
“So once frequent and convenient sex are available he moves on…”
This is possibly the thing that scares me most with my current relationship. We are withholding from sex until marriage but then after marriage the novelty wears off.
What can a wife do to keep her husband and prevent the above from occurring?
Your Feminine Greatness Clare,
It’s only novelty when nothing backs it up, such as love, affection, devotion, commitment, friendship, likeability, companionship, and other emotions that precede and that she tries to maintain after marriage. As the marital reward, sex crowns those emotions.
It’s not sex but romantic love that is the novelty that wears off in a year or two. You might want to research enduring love and the two-year glitch scattered elsewhere in this blog.
Guy
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G.