Girls have an instinctive ability to handle boys. However, many lack enough talent and skills to win consistently. New knowledge improves talent and broadens skills. So, squeeze this baker’s dozen of truisms into your thinking of the future.
- HardToGet keeps a girl in the driver’s seat. Non-passionate relations make the best bus tires for rolling over the hottest boys.
- Self-respect counts most in a girl’s character. Without it, self-confidence plummets. Earning self-confidence builds self-respect. So, she gets what she earns as she pursues her hopes and dreams.
- A girl’s happy future with a happy mate depends more on his integrity than anything else. Integrity strengthens mutual respect, commitment to marriage, devotion to her, and his vow-keeping.
- A busted courtship shouldn’t be such a big deal. Multiple courtships pay off. Her man’s character depends on her making enough wrong judgments to learn how to choose the best man for her.
- Ladylike behavior, high modesty standards, and moral expectations stir men to be gentlemanly in a woman’s presence. It also works for girls.
- A boy takes interest in a girl for two prime reasons. Fixation on sex energizes him temporarily. Desire for her admiration focuses him on long-term possibilities. If she enables the former, she can forget the latter.
- Self-respect fades when you give what you oughtn’t, do what you shouldn’t, or suffer what you needn’t.
- Do what’s right, avoid what’s wrong, but more importantly, always do what you should.
- Kissing does matter. Sensuous suggests the rightness of you for him. Passionate suggests the rightness of him for sex.
- Guilt guides your life, so start now affirming your intention and ability to do what you should. Most importantly, learn to forgive yourself and don’t look back. Old guilt leads to depression when loaded with doubt about how you previously handled it.
- A boy respects what he can’t conquer. He respects chastity in general and especially a girl’s abstinence with him. A man’s love rests on a firm foundation of respect for a woman. Boys want sex, and so he keeps trying. Where else can she get enough respect, unless she keeps denying sex but not disrespecting his trying?
- Feminine beats plain femaleness. Mystery beats full disclosure. Modesty beats masculine morality. Monogamy beats sexual freedom. All of it makes males back off from their naturally dominant personas, which helps fulfill female hopes and dreams.
- If you can train boys to follow your conscience, you’re well on the way to excellent relationship expertise.
Congratulations to everyone that completed boot camp. Only you know who you are but reward yourself some way. I’m proud of you.
Regular WWNH broadcasting resumes tomorrow.
Just call me overly analytical and curious and a bit confused. This caught my eye “disrespecting his trying” Interesting term – how exactly does one do this? In order to not do it and respect him for trying while still telling him no one must have a clear understanding of what not to do – help? How do you effectively respect him for trying? Also how much does a woman’s trust matter to a man? Does that change if he also respects her?
Thanks
Your Highness Candice,
Welcome aboard. Always glad to have a pretty woman join this cruise.
How do you not disrespect his trying? You respect his nature to pursue conquest. You respect him for who he is and what he’s doing up until he crosses the threshold that makes you say, “Not now. Not that. No further!”
You say, “…one must have a clear understanding of what not to do…” True, the woman has to have that understanding in her mind. Men can’t read her mind, so she has to develop tips, forewarnings, and alerts that enable him to read her intentions, her line in the sand. The better he senses what’s acceptable and unacceptable, the more finely he tunes his patience and efforts to not offend. Even going beyond sex, that process is the essence of how women shape dating, courtship, and marriage to favor fulfillment of female hopes and dreams.
Guy
I would add that many feminists would sneer and mock a man for …well, acting like a man! It’s amazing how prudish a feminist can be by expecting a man to act like a gal pal or to be “nice”. The same sneering attitude can come out when a man takes leadership or acts decisive…guess what? He’s not going to do it like a woman! He may forget to say “Please” and apologize a lot like a woman:).
So when it comes to a man who is pursuing sex I would guess that a woman could show respect toward that manly tendency by not writing him off entirely for having that tendency. Now, if he failed to respect her when she said, “NO”, I would say it is time to say “goodbye and good riddance”.
I saw this posted on facebook, and had to share it: http://phocks.org/stumble/girlsarelike.php — I hope it will resonate for girls (and women) who feel the pressure to lower their standards just to get a guy.
Your Highness Kathy,
Good choice. It’s amazing how simple good wisdom can be shown. Thanks.
Guy