Men have not changed their nature as women expect. Consequently, females can’t succeed dealing with males as they think they ought to.
Social pressures imposed by modern females convert male behavior – but not the male nature. Women claim that men are doing what women don’t want, and the self-fulfilling prophecy delivers more of what women think about. Men grow into the image that women have of them.
More and more with each new generation over the past few decades, boys and men changed their behaviors to match what females focus on and talk about. Such as: Compliments are sexually suggestive and so men quit. Gentlemanly behavior is chauvinist, and so men quit. Women are not the weaker sex, and men started punching them more often. Men are only after sex, and men would have backed off except females relieved the pressure by making cheap and easy sex ever more popular.
Males now change their behavior to attract females for sex instead of to qualify as the mate of one. If women want femmy men as requirement for frequent and convenient access to sex, men will get femmy. Men turn away from the masculine toward the feminine. They even duplicate female behaviors.
Men shift away from integrity and toward the fashionable. They downplay rugged individualism and favor relationships. They abandon the macho image for wussiness. They trade aggressiveness for the appearance of faux neutering. They yield their manliness to political correctness. They use disreputable or unrespectable celebrities as role models. They duplicate females by trying to get emotional fulfillment through other people instead of the male’s natural way through his work. They display faux empathy and sympathy (such as by inquiring quickly after anyone’s surprise or stumble, “Are you okay?”).
Even though men now hug and openly proclaim their love of other men, it is a female-inspired front and their masculine nature remains unchanged. Deep inside men are still not females. The behavioral changes that women expect generate some but not the important qualities they want in their man. Even worse, men accumulate resentment and resistance and retaliate in a broad range of actions from self-centered silence to extreme violence.
What an excellent article today! What you said is so true, you *can* shame a man into feminine behavior but at the root he’s still a man. Biology is going to trump societal expectations. And why any woman would want to act like a man so she can be attracted to a man that acts like a woman is so messed up it defies comprehension.
I can’t even be attracted to a man like that. I have some sort of physiological response lose any attraction if I see femmy behaviors.
I’ve gone back and forth on whether I can be with an Alpha or Beta even, and though I get along with Betas best, something within me screams to be with an Alpha, though I think 2 of us together might spell trouble.
What the heck do you do when you can’t even find such a man anymore?
Your Highness Reina,
Re you getting along with an alpha. This book may help you match up with one more compatible with the order of your birth. It’s The New Birth Order Book by Kevin Leman. The interpersonal dynamics of first-born, middle-born, and last-born adults are hugely different. Mrs. Guy claims her first real understnding of me and our three boys came after she read that book.
Guy
Hmmm…good one Guy! I can see that making a difference and I am definitely off to look at that book. I’m a first born
I also thank you for the other info you provided on an alpha female dating a beta male, from a question of mine you answered on another thread. It made it easier in dating another guy like that.
Your soo right Sir Guy. Lately i’ve found this website on wordpress that describes what men are going through or say;by men ‘when women arent around’ like how many women they could ‘score’ with, how marriage isn’t for them and how many broads they could get for NOTHING–why being ‘beta’ is nt good, why women only go for ALPHA MALES and cheat on good men etc. ad nauseum–I think some but most men weren’t like this UNTIL radical feminism took root—(tho i may be wrong)
Your Highness B B,
Welcome aboard. I love it when pretty women join us on this blog cruise.
Guy
The following statement is NOT TRUE.
Women are not the weaker sex, and men started punching them more often.
1. This statement is blaming women for abusive behavior from men.
2. Even if it were true you would see men reacting violently against stronger women. We know that is NOT the case. They try and find the weakest, most vulnerable person to beat up on. Not once did a male or any kind of controller like that try and approach me.
3. Weak men have been beating up women for centuries long before the change in thinking of some women about not being the weaker sex.
I’m really glad my lovely husband (a real man) decided to do what he wanted to do and life his life according to his moral compass, not bowing down to what women supposedly want. One that does that is NOT a man but a male child who does not know who he is. If anyone changes who they are because of what other people want, that person is a people pleaser who is immature. Immature men need to stay away from real women that want real men.
Your Highness Pamela,
Welcome aboard. I love it when pretty women sign up for this cruise with something to add.
As to the truth of the statement you cite, taken in context, it translates like this: Women broadcast that they rejected the idea of them being the weaker sex. The claim dominated the uplifting of women during the 70s and 80s. By the 90s and beyond the incidence of female abuse had grown tremendously. Admittedly not against the stronger women, but the political, legal, and economic upgrading of their gender produced unintended consequences against their weaker sisters. In no way do I support what happened, but I must report what I observed.
With that elaboration, I stand strongly behind all else that you say.
Guy
You are absolutely correct dear. That statement does blame women for abusive men, and it pretends that domestic violence is the result of feminism, when it clearly is not.
Women not only decided they were not the weaker sex which is fair right and reasonable no one should stand for abuse; but women collectively declared it and then set out to prove it by being aggressive and competing with men. The male nature responds to confrontation and aggression with aggression. Women in the collective male mind became competitors first women second; so they were treated as such. As for the men who attach weaker vulnerable women would do that anyway; the difference now is that the male societal collective no longer punishes men who do that. A weak man will attack a weaker male – it is the nature of the male. A stronger male will only compete with an equally matched male or higher ranked male that is the law of nature. A real man will not attack/assault punch a woman because he is comfortable within himself and seeks only his own approval and ignores societal pressure.
A real man will not attack a strong woman who is also a feminine woman – because he respects her strength of character, intellect and will and values her femininity i.e. her soft power -even though he knows that in terms of physical strength if he attacked her he has greater strength biology and physiology given men the advantage. An Alpha male tends to be more overt in his masculine nature in contrast to a Beta male who may be just as masculine but not as overtly aggressive i.e. in nature you have Alpha males who are the pack leaders and Beta males who are the second in command each are masculine but each plays to their strengths one may be more brawn the other maybe more brain – but make no mistake about it a Beta male is still male and if he has not drunk the societal kool aid of feminization of males – it may just be a case of still waters running deep. There is a difference between a femmy male and a Beta male.
Great column Guy
Your Highness,
Great comment, Candice
Co-sign! Good comments
Well put Sir Guy.
A little known fact; often when there is physical violence between a couple it is the woman who instigates it. Some women think it’s ok to hit men.
some men, need to learn to BLOCK WOMEN when they think they could punch them, and need to leave for a few hours so he could cool down, unless hes a MAJOR ABUSER and learned it from his father and brothers…I know that, when their dads beat their moms, the man hates his dad BUT he ends up doing the SAME THING. For women, the best way to find that out is to ASK QUESTIONS when appropriate and in order. If he hates his dad because of xyz, it ISN’T A GOOD BET FOR MARRIAGE, and having sex with you even when married WONT CHANGE HIM. He has to ‘man up’ and get counseling on his own
Men have always hit women. Now it is more likely to be reported and the man more likely to be arrested. The actual amount violence against women hasn’t risen, but the amount of violence reported has. There was a time (before feminism) when women usually didn’t call the police about these things, and if they did the police wouldn’t do anything.