05/03/2011 · 10:11 am
- A couple’s life includes relationship management. To men relationships require no management.
- If her breasts are not uplifted, pointed, and a distinct pair, she’s already starting to look older. Bosomy breasts come naturally as women age and as they fatten up.
- When she chases a man for his looks, she wants to impress herself and others. However, he receives the message that she’s available and disposable.
- Girls cheapen themselves to attract a boyfriend, and success builds habit. Men don’t value cheap women except for sex, which forces such girls as women to bounce from one man to another.
- Easy sex might promote shack up and even short-term marriage within the mind of her boyfriend. But, it won’t stir up the foundational respect needed for enduring love that survives the inevitable fading of romantic love.
- Men don’t respect desperate people. A desperate woman is not a keeper and is dump-able without much remorse.
- Sex deferred until marriage maximizes her as a highly feminine matrimonial target. Only a ‘giant of a man’ in his eyes, that is himself, his royal studliness, could beat out all those other competitors for her hand made evermore valuable by her impenetrable chastity.
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Hold on, you say ‘Easy sex might promote shack up and even short-term marriage within the mind of her boyfriend. ‘ … sadly, this seems contrary to the reality that so many women do provide easy sex, even easier, they move in with a guy before being married/committed to (unthinkable in my world) as if I would make it easy for a guy NOT to commit! I pity these women, but as you repeatedly say in your posts, men do what it takes to get regular and easy access to sex so your statement above saying that easy sex might promote shack up, or short term marriage seems rarely the case as guys settle for these types of women… just a thought… your thoughts?
Your Highness Angela,
I wasn’t clear, you’re confused, or both. Easy sex might and it might not…etc. You see guys take advantage of cheap and easy sex by avoiding shack up/marriage. I see too many guys shacked up to think they got there without ‘testing the waters’ beforehand. If women shack up, they haven’t been holding back on ‘cheap and easy’.
Lust, infatuation, economic benefits, and lack of other options prompt men to shack up. Those factors can take some men even into marriage with lack of devotion for wives that almost guarantees temporary marriages.
Guy
Thank you Guy, I admire you and your blog. I only wish I could somehow have the power to inform all women of this information, I get so angry inside when I see how women are fooled into thinking these men really love them, all I ever think is, ‘they are being used’. I am eternally thankful for a good father that taught me better.
Although I strongly agree on your last point – ‘Sex deferred until marriage maximizes her as a highly feminine matrimonial target. Only a ‘giant of a man’ in his eyes, that is himself, his royal studliness, could beat out all those other competitors for her hand made evermore valuable by her impenetrable chastity. ‘ wow, that struck a cord with me, because this is how I wish to be viewed by that very lucky man one day. Rather than a romantic love that fades eventually, I hope for a celestial, lifelong bond, strong love and friendship with a man.
Your Highness Angela,
I’ve written many times about building up devotion before conquest that generates the love you hope for. Search for the term ‘enduring love’.
Guy
Guy,
I’ve seen it many times with women I’ve counseled at pregnancy centers; she is shacked up and hoping with all her heart that the guy will marry her because he “loves” her enough to live with her. Then I discover that they already have a baby (or two) and she works but he doesn’t. Often, the woman makes excuses for the guy ie., “We are ‘engaged’ but he doesn’t want to get married until he can give me a really nice ceremony” or “He can’t afford to buy me a nice ring yet so we haven’t gotten married.”
Obviously, many women need to raise the standard and tell themselves that they are worth being provided for and they are worth a man sacrificing for but society tells women that they need to “pull their own weight” and “contribute monetarily to the family”. I’ve met women who bust their tails in their homes but still feel guilty that they aren’t “really” helping by bringing in money (and these are married women whose husbands make a great salary).
I know women shouldn’t be gold-diggers but if some of these single women refused to be the bread winners for their live-ins maybe that would sift out the dead weights and wake the girls up to what a loser he is.
These women must have low self esteem. There is something undignified about supporting a man financially or sitting around unemployed while a man doesn’t provide for you. Some women don’t work but they rely on unemployment or welfare and otherwise allow their husbands not to provide for them.The only dignified options is to leave him until he is able to support you again. And of course if he’s not your husband then there is no good reason to be living with him in the first place.
Nt12many – Most women should not worry about being seen as a gold digger. Gold diggers only want men for their money. Most of us are too romantic for that. Picking a man who will be a good provider is the responsible thing to do for you and your children. A man who can’t provide well is not a wise choice and the woman and her children will suffer for that mistake.
Grace – Fascinating Womanhood tells women to leave men who aren’t providing too. Basically he should not be allowed to be with you and not support you. I agree with that.
Agree with you 100%. Let men be what nature intended them to be – a provider. Only a proper man in this day and age will realise this & have an innate wanting and sense of obligation to be a provider. Such a man in my eyes, is powerful and so manly … and soooo attractive!!
Could you expand on older women’s breasts. They sag, droop, deflate. Your point?
Your Highness Paulette,
My point is that young women make themselves appear older by not appearing as young as they are capable.
As to the sag and droop of aging, masculine interests parallel women in aging. Older male interests spread away from breast appeal and sexy attractiveness and toward compatible values and expectations in living together. A wife has immense capabilities to capture husband’s focus as aging changes her appearance. More and more smiles, feminine charm, fun, flattery, and gratitude are good starters. More complimentary clothing helps. Of course, the best place to start is years earlier by keeping her modesty at a high level in her own bedroom. Then, sag and droop are easy to keep out of sight at least because seeing them is where it registers most dearly with men.
Women intuitively know what I just described about men. But women aren’t eager to pay the price required to keep their man satisfied with all that she has including things that don’t stay the same.
Guy