- Hardtoget stimulates a man’s imagination, persistence, and determination, which are more powerful than sex appeal. Most women have sex appeal, but too few stimulate a man’s imagination and persistence much beyond sex.
- Women accept, encourage, and even duplicate female-unfriendly masculine behavior. Except for genitalia and sexual promise, they appear as just one of the guys. So, men conquer and move on. Women weep and long for Maalox relief from relationship reflux.
- Until they yield or unless they fail, women dominate relationships before conquest. Men move cautiously, even ease off their dominance, in order to avoid a no-score.
- Male bashing in emails, koffeeklatches, and entertainment media imply or accuse men of domestic irresponsibility. The self-fulfilling prophecy works, and modern women face men they don’t care much about—promise-breaking boyfriends, lackluster husbands, irresponsible fathers, other women’s castoffs, and violent spouses.
- Modern wives reject castle-building for their man. They enshrine themselves with him as prince consort to her as sovereign queen. Only wusses, feminized men, and PC advocates stay long with such women.
- Men enjoy the proliferation of unobligated sex brought to them courtesy of Feminism. Still, they prefer to marry a sexually inactive woman and the closer to virginity she appears, all the better.
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Modern women are using too many antidepressants because of the late 20th century beliefs. I notice, though I may be wrong, that couples of any age dont look like they used to. The man is NOT putting his arm around her shoulder and walking straight ahead- I’m looking hard for it.I also notice that boys want to hug the girls; I think its weird Maybe it’s because i’m California. I don’t know.
A entrepreneurial man that I know in his mid-thirties recently got married to his long time girlfriend. I was excited to see the wedding photos and as great as they are (great color scheme and photographer), one thing stood out – the groom. That man was clinging to her for dear life (in their wedding photos)! Looking deeper into his online photo collection that was how all the pictures were. She was perfectly aloof (and I do mean aloof) while this grown man hung on her smiling sweetly. Honestly he looked like a fool (although he is a smart kind hearted man). I forever have the picture of her in her wedding dress throwing up the surfer dude symbol while looking to the side and him hanging on her like a Carebear with a full grin. lol! Not for me. I do wish them well.
Lady Kaikou
P.S. Men today want “strong” women aka masculine aka mules. Not for me!
Your Highness Lady Kaikou,
As you describe it, I venture that couple won’t last long. He lacks her respect and neither can live long with that condition, unless of course he’s very rich and she’s moving up to a much higher social level. Even then she’s not likely to remain faithful.
Guy
Hey Guy, could you elaborate your fourth point, especially the part about women complaining about their men leading to violent spouses. It’s triggering some negative emotions as someone who knows a few women who were in physically abusive relationships.
Also, your phrasing of “female-unfriendly masculine behavior” is a bit vague. Does this mean that there is an opposite male-unfriendly feminine behavior? Or that masculinity is multifaceted and can be negative and positive and femininity is only positive. Which begs more questions if that’s the case. Or are we only talking about sex and behaviors towards sex? This phrase too, like the previous ones, raised some triggers.
And as a “one of the guys” kind of girls, I’m just flat-out confused by what that has to do with “sexual conquering” because most girls like myself, are usually *not* being sexually conquered (and some of us are totally fine with that). Not so much triggering over here, just confusion.
-S
Your Highness Theaccidentalrussophile,
Re 1st para: It’s the self-fulfilling prophecy you may have missed. Spouses live up to the expectations of each other. The more women demean men, the poorer spouses that men become for women. Women currently in abusive relationships are disconnected from the issue at hand.
Re 2nd para: You call it vague and open doors to disconnected subjects. My bullet is clear as written so let’s stay on theme.
Re 3rd para: You claim my bullet doesn’t apply to you. You’ve already convinced us that you’re not the typical female and it was never aimed at you, so what’s the real bother?
Guy
Please, call me S, or Tanya. Tanya was the name I took when I started learning Russian two years ago.
I am feeling some hostility, so allow me to expand my purpose here so we’re both not firing up our defenses. I found this site through a mirror tumblr and thought it was interesting. While I don’t believe in a lot of things you have posted, I am curious about your positions. It is only my intention to question and seek knowledge rather than incite hostilities. I look for dialogue, the same way I seek dialogue between myself and my super-liberal friends and how I seek dialogue between my Protestant (and Jewish and Buddhist) friends. Consider me your ombudsman, or devil’s advocate, for my time here.
I come in peace, Guy, but I ask that you not insult my intelligence, please.
To respond to your response, I’m still confused. What *is* the issue at hand? What if a woman is respectful to her man, yet he still finds it in himself to beat her every night? Or the woman who refuses sex, but he won’t take no for an answer? This is a pretty good site to look through about domestic violence/abuse. Anecdotely, one of my best friends went through a sexually abusive relationship that would turn physical on occasion. And I was the victim of unwanted sexual activity from a past boyfriend.
I can see the tracks that your train of thought is on, but domestic violence and abuse is a well documented problem facing humanity that I think warrants more of a discussion than “women are just meanie heads who make men feel weak, and they must assert their masculinity through violence.” (I, of course, am downplaying the opposing argument, not to demean your view, but to emphasize that there needs to be an open discussion).
2nd response: How are my subsequent points disconnected? In this discourse, we acknowledge a concrete binary system: male, female; masculine, feminine. If one hand of masculine activity is inherently anti-female, why is it wrong to ask if there are inherently anti-male feminine activities? And if there are none, does that mean that femininity is inherently one-dimensional? If we look at one side of the coin, how is it wrong to ask about the other side?
3rd response: I never claimed that my bullet never applied to me. What I said, simply, was that women who try to act like “one of the guys,” at least from my perspective, are not trying to engage in sexual activity with the men. They act like “one of the guys” because they truly enjoy their company and wish not to be seen as sexual objects that could damage a wonderful friendship. I think it’s the phrasing of “appear as one of the guys,” that triggers me. Yes that’s it. I was understanding your contention until that phrase.
Hopefully our discourse can continue peacefully?
-S
Your Highness S,
You say you wish to seek knowledge, so I refer you to the CONTENTS page and to open some of the 1,500 doors that describe my worldview. Admittedly, you’ll not find your worldview, but I haven’t the time to reconcile a half-million words with a few paragraphs. I also seek knowledge, but I choose to get it from readers trying to figure out how to deal better with men without being like them.
Guy
(I’m on my phone and far, far too lazy to log in)
It’s kind of a bummer that we can’t even talk about our differences. I’ve tried to be kindly and at least articulate, as it seems to get the best response.
More than a tomboy, I am insatiably curious, especially when it comes to viewpoints unlike my own. The conversation must be dynamic; reading will only take me so far, as I often have many questions at the end of your blog entries. I am a millenial, and as such, don’t find many staunch pro-femininity groups. In fact, I daresay, this is one of the first I’ve found! The others have swept my questions away, as well, telling me to abandon my feminist views and then get back to them.
I am a moderate when it comes to gender roles, and find it disheartening that my questions are being dismissed so passively. It makes me feel attacked, as the feminists at my university do to me when they call me a prude.
May I extend another olive branch?
-S
Your Highness S,
Olive branch viewed as coming from a beautiful and bountiful heart. Thanks.
Her Highness Kaikou has described my wishes so much better than I ever could. She could be my agent anytime, so for now let me stand on her comment.
Guy
S or T – Like Guy replied I encourage that your learning process or expansion of your mind not only be questioning, but perhaps and more than that- reading of the entries. Take the time to reflect and figure out why you feel the way you do and how the expression and thoughts make YOU feel. Sir Guy, myself, and others had to figure out it ourselves and reflect too. We aren’t pushing you away, but towards your true existence. But if you are unwilling to do even that, why engage any further I wonder? Sir Guy has complied a very valuable resource and it is updated daily and free online. In my personal opinion, he doesn’t have to answer your questions or mine or anyone’s. For all we know tomorrow it will vanish and all we will have is the true conviction of our minds and hearts. You won’t have Sir Guy to prove it to you. So why start now?
Lady Kaikou