Compatibility has one switch for sex. They compete before conquest. They cooperate after.
- If a woman sets standards and has high expectations, a man will step up, elevate his effort, and smooth his attitude—but only before their first sex together. After that, she’s no worse than the woman he conquered, and he expects her to step up to his expectations.
- A man will not long play games or otherwise compete for sex with a woman he has conquered. If she persistently uses sex to get her way, he will rebel quietly, privately, noisily, or physically. Whichever way he chooses, he won’t tolerate it very long and will soon seek another woman.
- Virtual virginity doesn’t make her judgments foolproof. It does, however, enable her to distinguish the important things to her: long term devotion from short term commitment, the Marrying Man from the player, the mature from the immature, the sincere from the phony, the temperate from the intolerable, the believer in something admirably greater than himself from the disbeliever, the considerate guy from the inconsiderate practitioner that shocks female sensibilities.
- He knows how to capture her love, although it doesn’t mean he will succeed. But once she loves him, he knows little about how to keep it or her respect except by being himself in all his masculine glory. Once he conquers her, if he can’t be who he is, he’s virtually lost at being what she expects. (For example: He can’t do relationship management, especially as she visualizes the necessity.)
02/22/2012 · 7:55 am