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Compatibility has one switch for sex. They compete before conquest. They cooperate after.
- If a woman sets standards and has high expectations, a man will step up, elevate his effort, and smooth his attitude—but only before their first sex together. After that, she’s no worse than the woman he conquered, and he expects her to step up to his expectations.
- A man will not long play games or otherwise compete for sex with a woman he has conquered. If she persistently uses sex to get her way, he will rebel quietly, privately, noisily, or physically. Whichever way he chooses, he won’t tolerate it very long and will soon seek another woman.
- Virtual virginity doesn’t make her judgments foolproof. It does, however, enable her to distinguish the important things to her: long term devotion from short term commitment, the Marrying Man from the player, the mature from the immature, the sincere from the phony, the temperate from the intolerable, the believer in something admirably greater than himself from the disbeliever, the considerate guy from the inconsiderate practitioner that shocks female sensibilities.
- He knows how to capture her love, although it doesn’t mean he will succeed. But once she loves him, he knows little about how to keep it or her respect except by being himself in all his masculine glory. Once he conquers her, if he can’t be who he is, he’s virtually lost at being what she expects. (For example: He can’t do relationship management, especially as she visualizes the necessity.)
02/22/2012 · 7:55 am
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These are such important things to hear. I wish every single woman in my sphere of influence heard these things.
I’ve observed many male friends remain fiercely devoted to their girlfriends (sometimes even to their ex-girlfriends) with whom they’ve had premarital sex. In all of the cases, she cares much less than him about their relationship, hence he still has to invest himself if he wants to be with her. Do you think his devotion can increase because of her indifferent behavior after conquest, or did whatever devotion he has arise before conquest?
Your Highness Anonymous,
Excellent question. If as you describe it, the root of his devotion doesn’t matter.
If “she cares much less than him about their relationship,” she cares much less about him THAN their relationship. He’s just a convenience until she finds someone better.
These days it’s a status symbol to have a boyfriend. No boyfriend depletes a woman’s status in the more fashionable ‘with it’ crowd. I suspect also that among such women, dumping a man earns social admiration. IOW, she earns admiration (masculine goal, acting like men) by dumping her boyfriend and earns the plaudits of girlfriends, which make her feel important (female objective) simply because she’s expected to do it. Since, the game is common among a certain social level of females (probably closet feminists), such gals are insincere and manipulative. Boyfriends are status symbols and mere conveniences while the gals search for Mr. Right.
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