Sexually active single women may think they’ve mastered the art of delivering sexual fulfillment to a man of critical importance to them. I suspect most are wrong. Too many variables need compatible merging for her man to feel sexually fulfilled. Such as:
- The male nature sees little need for foreplay and none for afterplay unless a woman convinces him otherwise.
- He’s an expert at intercourse or so he promises himself. Her satisfaction takes the back seat to his until he learns how to use his mind to fully open her heart.
- He has to convince himself with accomplishments that she helps to shape by an up or down ‘vote’ delivered through actions more than words.
- He initially knows nothing about her expectations for foreplay; either she teaches him or she remains disappointed as his nature moves his actions toward greater effectiveness (speediness in most cases).
- He also knows or cares nothing about her expectations for post-coital intimacy, aka afterplay, because her needs usually interfere with his actions after intercourse.
And this is probably the most important variable. Watch this one, ladies. I’m only a man but I bet I’m right on this one point about female nature. Great foreplay and post-coital intimacy after intercourse rank higher than orgasm to women in lovemaking with their permanent man.
Until a man’s wife makes it otherwise, sex to men is a mind function. Fulfillment for wife arrives after she turns their sexual relations into a heart function for both. Fulfillment for him depends on how she convinces him of her fulfillment.
Great foreplay and post-coital intimacy after intercourse rank higher than orgasm to women in lovemaking with their permanent man.
I concur!
hello mr. guy i’ve been following your blog for quite a while now but this is my first comment/question. i hope you don’t mind giving me your input on this. some ladies at my church are arranging a group to go to a pole dancing class. their thought is that it will spice up a marriage. when asked to go i declined because i find it degrading and very low class. needless to say they weren’t very happy with my different point of view. i’d like your thoughts on how a husband would really feel about his wife swinging around a pole even if it were only for him in private? would this cause him to lose respect or view her as less than ideal? thank you in advance. BTW this is the best blog and it has helped to refine my wifely skills and has made my good marriage over to a GREAT marriage.
Your Highness Pink Peony,
Welcome aboard. It’s a great day when another pretty woman joins us on this cruise to WhatWomenNeverHear.
We become like those with whom we associate. Were I you, I’d change to another church and tell the pastor why I left. Your church peers don’t know jack about Jack and even less about improving a marriage.
You say you found out a lot at this blog and upgraded your marriage. Right? Then, be guided by your experience and intuitive refusal to join ignorant women. You have life and marriage figured out very well. Others aren’t so fortunate.
Incidentally, how would a husband react? The self-respect of church wives is already low and will sink further. That means husband’s respect for wife will plummet because his love is founded on respect for women generally and his woman particularly. Those women aim at harming further their self-respect and weakening husband’s love.
Guy
P.S.
Sorry but I forgot to approve this when I first answered it.
G.
thank you so much! as i stated i’ve been a good student of your blog and you confirmed my feelings about this. i have no intentions of reducing the respect my husband has for me. the state of the church today is very unsettling. i’ve only been a member of this church a year and it was my husband’s choice of churches. i don’t really associate with any of them outside of church and church activities except for a couple of older ladies. there is a large number of unwed mothers with their number of ex’s and offspring steadily growing. like you said we become like those we associate with so i’ve taken alot of slack for not wanting to be apart of their “group”. i’m not bothered by it because the pastor there is a good teacher and i come for Jesus not them. blessings to you and your wife, Happy Easter!