- To be truly effective, your online dating profile should discourage men you would later find less than good enough. Consequently, fewer responses are better. Although the hopes aroused by responses and chatting may keep your spirits up, quality isn’t found in numbers. It’s found by deleting unqualified prospectors before they take up your time. Also, don’t forget that a developing relationship, which crumbles later, makes your spirits plummet from a much higher summit.
- A woman cries and makes herself feel better. Men exposed to her feel worse, because they feel helpless. They can’t sense the full meaning of why she cries or what she cries over. Her pain or joy isn’t evident enough for men to share its intensity, although women seem quite able to empathize or sympathize and even know what’s more appropriate. While women know all those things, men founder in misery when any woman cries. It’s a heart-opening behavior for which men receive little credit.
- It all happens in a flash and directly from hardwiring of his brain. As a hunter-conqueror, dangers and potential targets alert him. Consequently, a man automatically glances toward movement. Unthreatening males disinterest him. Before, during, and after some movement attracts his eyes, his conscious mind is occupied elsewhere. For a female passing nearby, in rapid-fire succession and before conscious thoughts ever stir, a man’s subconscious automatically assesses her as no danger and as appropriate or inappropriate for him as sex object. If he stares after her, his conscious mind opens to the thought of her as sex object. All of the above is natural to the species and has nothing to do with his female companion. However, if he does stare after a passing woman, it disturbs the female sensibilities of his companion.
1651. RANDOM THOUGHTS—Group 59
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LTNT Guy,
Missed the blog – been running just had chance to pop in – interesting post. Quick question for you though –
“It’s a heart-opening behavior for which men receive little credit.”
The heart opening part makes sense i.e. men’s hearts are touched by the tears of a woman and essentially open up and experience emotion – but do not know what to do i.e. what action to take to “fix” the problem or situation because they do not fully understand what they are experiencing because it is intangible. The credit part is what has me curious? How can a woman give “credit” for this? If a woman cries be it happy or sad if reaches out to the man in question and acknowledges him as a person and accepts and respects his response to her actions (tears) and appreciates his being there vs. just experiencing what she is feeling and presuming he is feeling it the same way and is on the same page with her is that giving credit?
Perplexed Penelope
Your Highness Penelope,
You’re on the right track. He was trying, so whatever he did earned your approval. Just by having provided a shoulder, he feels he earned whatever you do or however you say it., For example, “You have the greatest shoulder ever. I love to cry on it. Please keep it handy, as I may do this again.” Or, “You really know how to please me when I’m hurting.” Or, “I sure hit paydirt when I found you.” Or, “You deserve a reward, your favorite dinner, for putting up with my leaning so hard on you emotionally and dragging you into my pain.”
Guy