Female-friendly values no longer dominate social and domestic scenes. Women ignore how the sexes differ over the concepts of love and respect. Consequently, women act too motherly in their love and unkind in their respect.
Mother-love is unconditional; that is, given without it being earned. It springs up naturally in women that care for their own infants. Thus, God and Nature endow newborns with an edge in childhood.
However, women mistake mother-love as the model for all love, and it poisons expectations about themselves and their men. First, other than mother-love, all love is conditional because strings are attached even if love doesn’t have to be earned. Second, on the receiving end of love, women will never be loved by a man showing anything close to mother-love. Men aren’t capable of anything even close, and women fare better with more pragmatic expectations. Third, as deliverers of love, women drive men away by trying to emulate mother-love. Men call it smother love.
Women can love before they respect someone and even after respect fades. On roughly the same scale, the more intensely a woman’s love fades or is betrayed, the more intensely her respect also fades. Consequently, respect for someone isn’t critical but just another subset of womanly love, much like a man’s earning power or sense of personal responsibility.
Men are opposite. They can’t truly and enduringly love a woman without first respecting her. If respect fades, love inevitably follows. Consequently, respect is critical and must come first. Loss of respect triggers loss of love. Loss of love doesn’t automatically trigger loss of respect, such as when divorcing a great mother of his children.
Because respect for her man is only a subset of her love, a woman easily forgets how important her reflection of it is to him. If he doesn’t see respect for him in her actions, he doesn’t believe words that proclaim her love. If she compensates by loving him as mother loves a child, she smothers him.
What love is to women, respect is to men. Without loving someone, both sexes can show respect for him or her. But neither sex can show love for someone without men basing it on respect and women finding ways to respect a man. Therefore, respecting someone is more important than loving someone.
In the end, respect generates higher quality interpersonal and relationship success than love. When women fail to both earn and show enough respect, mutual love doesn’t develop intensely enough. It produces what we have today, seemingly loveable relationships plagued by social and domestic turmoil exemplified by male dominance.
Women can regain female dominance in both society and relationships by divorcing feminist attitudes. Quit looking for what women want more of and supply to men what they primarily expect more of. In all avenues of life, forget focusing so much on love and loving and elevate respect and respecting as more important. Show unconditional respect to the male gender for who they are and what they do. Out of that, mutual respect will grow and accelerate the sharing of love more easily and comprehensively.