We become like the music that makes us dream. Trashy lyrics fill the minds of males today. Consequently, men pursue sex through dishonor of females, disrespect of males, deceit, manipulation, and violence. Because females accept the music rather than do without the immediate gratification of having a boyfriend, guys steer away from becoming steady, dependable, and faithful boyfriends, lovers, husbands, and platonic friends. The music cheapens sex to a commodity.
Would men be better on behalf of women if they listened to something else? Something that women prefer? Soft music that calms the spirit? Endearing lyrics that uplift females for manly devotion? Words that inspire mutual love and togetherness instead of sex?
If girls and women trash and abandon listening to any music that demeans females or lifts men over them, then men would soon follow. If women were to like and listen exclusively to love ballads and similar female-friendly music, men would be forced to listen or go elsewhere. If sex is more hint than obvious, such music calms instead of elevates libido and aggressiveness, especially for men. It helps bond those who want to bond. It pushes sex into the background. Not forbidden but something to be earned, which challenges men and earns manly respect of females that insist on sex being earned by someone worthy of them.
Such music was popular before rock and roll flipped the sex target switch from feminine to masculine control. Men are now empowered to shape social and domestic values and beliefs to the humongous disadvantage of females of every age.
If women insist on listening ONLY to music that uplifts, compliments, and pleases females, men would follow. Men do whatever women require in order for men to have frequent and convenient access to sex.
However, men, politicians, bureaucrats, and entertainment media keep culturally sick male dominance in vogue. They keep females divided by who can and can’t, who will and won’t, who does and doesn’t accept overbearing and offending male dominance made outrageous by modern music. Thus, men prevent women from unifying the female gender around common cause to unseat immature men as shapers of cultural values.
Dear Sir Guy,
SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO TRUE!!!
I found that happening upon public broadcasting fundraisers featuring love ballades from Doo Wop, 60′s or 70′s hits REALLY inspire me. These are not part of popular culture
If you listen carefully to the ballades you will hear the love, the longing in the man’ s voice. When I listen I feel relaxed. I feel peace.
Its comforting to hear the male’s psyche yielding to the love he feels for a woman and wondering what way he could use to reach her heart. Sounds like textbook WWNH!!! That’s the kind of man I like.
One last thought … Ralph Waldo Emerson “A man is what he thinks about all day.”
Filling the mind with good can only bring good. Men could really reach women’s hearts A LOT BETTER by minding the love ballades!
Ladies better take charge here and overide the ugliness of the current!
Thank you SO MUCH for the post.
Sir Guy, I’m 50+ and heard when the music changed. The biggest changes, to me was when Rock & Roll became ROCK but called themeselves the other. Todays music has FEMALE LONGING instead of MALE LONGING that may or used to lead into marriage
Women go ‘gaga’ over male stars but males dont over female stars as much have you or anyone else noticed that? if women go ‘gaga’ over Lady Gaga, we’re in trouble…lol
Yeah boomer babe,
Female longing, instead of male longing – VERY GOOD! That’s just plain upside down and women just let it happen.
Women who drink the toxic kool-aid of the culture have lost their bargaining power.
I don’t mean that to sound cynical or harsh. The men these days who are so coarse have not had the benefit of the love of a woman who sees them as a raw jewel, a diamond in the rough. If, she waits and cultivates the relationship his heart grows in love for her and real bonding occurs. He KNOWS she is right and true for holding him back. He respects and loves her for it. He is becoming the better man for it and he knows it, whether he says it or not.
The aggressive ugly music we hear is all about tearing down that gentle process. It bullies women to be cool and give in.
Gotta be a salmon going upstream and not a lemming running off the cliff because everybody else is!!!
The abstinence is hard. But the romance flowers and is really beautiful.
Hate to say this but its agains the ‘womans lib movement’: Women put careers AHEAD of family. Another thing i dont like; although im not into subliminal things, have you noticed that many pictures,even bridal photos showing the WOMAN cradling the MAN face in HER hands instead of HIS? look at the old youtube vids and see how women were treated, even subconsciouly. the men would cradle the WOMANS face in THEIR hands.
Dear boomer babe,
Whoa! I NEVER thought of that! That is SO gross. You are so right.
You brought something to my mind. Another thing the media does that is toxic is depict men as weaklings in tv sitcoms and commercials.
Its a disgrace. Men are shown as weak, bumbling, you name it and the women are the masterminds. From this I believe that the men are somehow being programed to believe that they are the weaker sex and the women believe they are the superior, feminist divas. Pride is of the evil one.
It seems to me that tv humiliates men and makes fun of them in this wicked culture of ours and its a real shame. A really good friend of mine that I go to church with brought this ugliness up years ago. At the time I didn’t get it. But I’m finally getting her point now.
I used to ignore these tv messages but now i realize they are forming really bad role models for women and men. These poor young people who are largely not going to church buy into this venom and that is really bad. A whole generation is being distorted. There is a generation of young women now who are loaded with feminist ideas who regularly show disdain for their husband (or “partner”) in casual work situations. I can only imagine how disrespectful they can be on the actual home front. No wonder the divorce rate in our country is like 50%. Just think of the children who are victims of these broken homes. Its a heartbreak.
I believe it is written in the Book of Wisdom “The power of life and death is in words.” I wish (and I probably need to open my heart and pray for this) that the feminists start to wrap their minds around this scripture from the Book of Wisdom and turn off their tvs and shut off the ugly music.
Also, I have heard some preachers use the phrase “speak faith into him (or her).” That is SO important. The man may be doing his very best and need her love very much. She surely won’t be able to provide him the Godly support he deserves (or needs) to inspire him to be the man God meant him to be if she is filled with feminist venom. Lord have mercy.
Thanks boomer babe. Glad you’re out there. Glad Sir Guy is there too.
I’m in my early 50s & married. It seems like in the 80s, men and women were pretty ‘even’. Women were gettin careers BUT not being dumb like driving their boyfriends around paying for their dates and giving their bodies like they do today..(ooh i hate that) It’s not the ‘sitcoms’ im worried about really,as bad as they are; feminists know there are men they cant ‘control’ like playboy types. They just teach a girl to have a career outside the home. GOD help you if you want to be a homemaker and homeschool your kids. I believe the economy will loosen up a bit later
Again a good point. There is a lot of disrespect for a woman who wants to be a homemaker.
I recall recently that some liberal female tv personality said some very mean things about Mitt Romney’s wife because she is a homemaker. The woman commentator was a feminist and had some nasty things to say, implying Mrs. Romney did not work a day in her life! Mrs. Romney and her husband have several children and grandchildren plus she has mulitiple sclerosis. I can’t comment here one way or another about the politics. But I CAN say that the disrespect for her as a mother and homemaker was a disgrace. The feminists have it backwards. What a shame.
It’s sad, it just looks like girls are looking at 5 years in the future instead of 50 years in future.
BTW just heard that ballad, theme song Dear Heart by Andy Williams, good song, good movie but kind of understated.(CHRISTIAN men will protect women anyway; you are just talking ‘average guy’)….plenty of others BUT thats last one ive heard. Your right about ROCK and RAP being the mens domain–girls are putting up with trashy lyrics against them today
Almost a decade ago, a young adult pastor started dancing and singing along when “Shake Ya Tail Feather” played on the car radio. Upon seeing the look on my face, he said, “I know, I know; the lyrics are terrible, but the song just sounds so cool.”
I think lyrical standards have decayed even more since then. Even some “country” songs make me uncomfortable. I’m thankful for gifted musicians who post instrumental covers of songs on youtube; I can play their videos, boost their view count, and enjoy melodies without lyrical interference.
Things are DEFINTELY more ‘decayed’. I notice the type of sound hasnt as much as the LYRICS the sound hasnt much since the 1980s. The modern ‘top 40s’ might as well be PORN. For country, I tend to like Brad Paisley but havent listened to him in a while either–at least he’s old fashioned for such a YOUNG guy; BTW Tim Tebow came to one of his concerts–sounds like a good sign
Its good you mention Tim Tebow going to Brad Paisley’s concert. Sticking together and using the marketplace is important.
One way this ugly culture rules over us is to make us think nobody else thinks like we do!
Remember “Divide and conquer”???
If we use sources like this site, do what Catherine said about you tube and patronize good concerts we will use our dollars to speak.
A few years back I canceled all extra packages on my cable service.
I was angry. The vulgar depictions and aimless violence had reached new lows – AND I WAS NOT GOING TO PAY FOR IT NO MATTER HOW MANY HIGHLY TOUTED MINI-SERIES I MISSED. TOUGH.
When I called to cancel, the woman I spoke to tried to save the sale. I offered to speak to her supervisor to let him know it was not that the woman was poor at her job but THAT THE CABLE CHANNELS WERE SHOWING SERIOUSLY OFFENSIVE MATERIAL THAT I WAS NOT GOING TO PAY AND WATCH.
I live in New York City. They were shocked. GOOD!!!
More people have to go further than JUST using their remote control to avoid watching filth – THEY HAVE TO STOP FUNDING THE FILTH. Money talks. You can cut your cable channels to make a statement but be sure they know what it is that you object to and why they lost your business!!!!!!!!
That is so funny! Everyone is infected.
Aint it the truth!! it’s like a ‘mini chat room’ lately. LOL. Sir Guy just hit a nerve with me because my husband plays and writes music I play some but not as good. We BOTH listen to what the teens are listening to. We have to know whats going on to counter it. Sometimes i have a hard time trying to ‘stomach’ it. tho
When we got married we were poor, so we did not even have a TV. Since then, our monetary status has gone up some, but the TV we have is the old type that now only plays DVDs. I say, hooray!
It is great not to be piping filth stuff straight into the house, whether music or shows. Incidentally, I would love to know some good CDs to buy. We play lots of classical and lullabies (for the babies) around here, but we have a swing CD that we thought would be good (and our toddler loves to dance to it!) but it bothers me when the women sing about their goal to “make” a man become “their man,” etc. I feel like many of the songs are in this vein. Maybe I am just showing my [young] age. How old does music have to be to be the better kind to which Guy is referring?!
Your Highness Anne,
I don’t know when rock and roll finally smothered love ballads. Probably by the eighties. The ballads that made the Hit Parade (top 25?) in the late thirties through early sixties provide the best plus a few still being published in the seventies. Romance and musical movies of that period were also great for conveying man’s dreams and love of a woman. You’ll find some movie titles (when REAL chick flicks were in fashion) in the posts listed under “Movie Call” in the CONTENTS page.
We just watched a great man-chases-girl-and-finally-wins-her Oscar winner, An American in Paris.
Guy
I hope no one minds that I’m chiming in
Like you, Anne, I resent the filth that permeates mainstream music. (I’m sorry if I’m being too blunt, but I like to call things with their real names.) I’ve also turned to the older stuff
and I’ve taken up listening to foreign music. That way I discovered bossa nova and latin jazz (those songs are mostly in Portuguese, but I don’t mind, as long as they’re great). Andrea Bocelli is an excellent example, too. He has a heavenly voice, and great songs to boot, which talk about love in such a sweet way. I realize that listening to a foreign language is not everyone’s cup of tea, but quality is quality. There is a wealth of great music to be found, especially in Romance and Slavic languages, if one is willing to look for it. That way, one can listen to exceptional music, and learn another language, which is always a great asset.
Since you mentioned Bocelli, you would like Il Divo. There is also a teenage group from italy — cute teenage boys! who do opera,,, forgot their name though but heard them on PBS
I see we think alike, boomer babe
I have heard about Il Divo in the past, and I have tried listening to them… I don’t know if it’s just me, but their performances lack the emotion that Bocelli displays. Yes, those four singers have great voices, but they are not as heartfelt as Bocelli is. Perhaps that’s an issue they have as a group, and not individually, but I still prefer other artists.
I’ll have to look up that Italian teenage group. I can’t resist the opera
Some of the songs in the past showed women singing to men MOTOWN had some, but most were men singing to women. I hear NOTHING of men singing to women in modern music..it’s NOT even on the radar.
I highly recommend the album “Back to Love” by the wonderful Miss Beth Nielsen Chapman. Each song is inspiring, melodic and fills you up with love and faith, whether you’re male or female, young or mature.
I’m one person who likes ‘old school’ Rock and Roll more like R&B that isn’t degrading to women. Thanks for telling us about Miss Beth Chapman shes quite good
Sir Guy
I wish it were as simple as women choosing better music.
A man recently blogged about a conversation he and a friend was having regarding getting itchy feet. His friend was describing his girlfriend as very desirable and amenable to all his sexual desires yet he had wondering eyes. The author concluded that it is natural that men get bored with women and want to experience many women because of a biological urge.
Apart from the obvious criticism we can lay at the feet of his girlfriend, I fear it’s going to take a lot more than changing what women listen to (although I do agree it is an important start, along with all media we consume. Women are the major consumers of cultural products, so we do have the power to dictate what gets made – if only we knew it). What a mess we’re in.
Your Highness Emma,
I deleted the site you cited. I can’t access it on public computer while on vacation.
Guy
P.S. Welcome aboard. It’s a great day when another pretty woman joins us on this cruise to WhatWomenNeverHear.
G.
These clever gentlemen made at least one pretty lady laugh today with their charming parody of “I’m Sexy and I Know It”.
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Not only that, but music is incredibly easy to do today, most singers are autotuned to death and the beats made by software (not even real instruments anymore, at least for pop) which reminds that easy music= easy everything, people listening to these repetitive lyrics are being programmed in a way to do exactly as they are told on these songs. I have heard such offensive messages towards women, yet women are the ones shaking their behinds to these atrocities and men couldn’t care less. I personally do not buy their products or watch or listen to radio, WITHDRAW your money and stop supporting them, raise awareness that you do not care about Katy perry or Britney spears current hit and bring the oldies back…..
Your Highness Balle,
You’re right. Young folks pay big bucks for little talent made watchable with gimmicks.
Guy
What are your thoughts on the blues? It’s recently become one of my favorite genres of music and style of dance, and I was wondering if it would be considered too un-female friendly.
Thanks! Love your blog!
Your Highness Anon,
Welcome aboard. It’s a great day when another pretty woman joins us on this cruise to WhatWomenNeverHear.
As to blues, the type of music doesn’t make the difference. The persona you adopt does. How do you portray yourself while listening and dancing? That of a sexually suggestive creature or that of a creature gently stirred emotionally but highly resistent to sexual overtures? If you don’t care about being exploited for sex, the former is okay. If you want to keep control over both your emotions and life, I suggest you favor the latter.
Guy